Your past does not define you. The mistakes you’ve made in the past do not define who you are. You are not the same person you were a year ago, a month ago, not even ten minutes ago. Neither your past experiences define you. They are just your teachers on this journey called life. You are always learning, growing, expanding and that’s the beauty of life.
I’d like to ask you a question: ‘Are you a frequent past traveller?’
In my first book, Mystic Butterfly – a guide to your true self, I have a section in one of the chapters, where I ask my readers, whether they’d consider themselves to be a frequent past travellers or a future travellers? I ask this question, so they can begin to notice, where their mind wanders the most: the past or the future? And this is not a place for judgment, no matter what the answer is. It is simply to acknowledge, where they currently are.
Today, I’d like to focus on past travelling. So, if you are one of the people who often travels back to the past, carry on reading. This post is for you.
So many people travel back to the past. Travelling back to the past isn’t necessarily a bad thing, if you are thinking about some great memories and also about the lessons you’ve learned from your past experiences. However, travelling back to the past, on a frequent basis, can become a problem when you are visiting some painful experiences over and over again, when you are resenting them and they may still be controlling your life.
If you have ever been in therapy, you know that talking about past can feel painful at first, but going deeper and recognising what triggers you, while working through your past experiences, can be very healing and transformational. That’s why therapy is so helpful.
I am a recovering past traveller, a very frequent one. I still travel back to the past, of course, but when I do, I quickly realise, that past is a place of reference and not a place of residence. When I de-tour back to the past, I know I need to go home, I need to go back to the present, because that’s the only place where the true life exists.
Coming back from the past to the present isn’t always easy, but when you keep practising, it becomes easier. I have a useful technique, which never lets me know and I’d suggest you give it a go.
Whenever you notice your mind wandering back to some unpleasant past memory, take a deep breath and breathe out. Then, ask yourself: ‘Where am I?’ Then, respond to that question: ‘I am right here in this moment. This is where my power lies. This is where I make the choice what I want to give my energy to. I choose to stay in the present.’ This exercise will allow you to re-connect with the present moment.
And here is one more: Meditation. Meditation allows you to deeply connect with the present moment- the only place where the true life exists. If you are new to meditation and would like learn more about it, check out this page on my website: http://www.mysticbutterfly.co.uk/meditation/ You’ll find there a step-by-step process how to meditate. There are also many of my guided meditations. Sit back, relax and let my voice be your guide.
I hope this post has inspired you and these two techniques will help you.