There is no need to re-emphasise how much our world and our lives have changed in the last few months. While we are going through something very challenging, as a collective, our personal lives have also being affected in so many ways. Some find it more challenging than others. Some cope better, others not. Some are struggling deeply, others take it as it comes. On top to that, we all have our own worries and fears, which are not connected to any of this.
To those of you who are struggling deeply, I want to acknowledge you and give you a virtual hug.
I fully understand that when we have a lot going on in life, it can be almost impossible to see the good and the positive. But I’d like to share with you a few simple thoughts, which I believe, when you try to implement into your life, can at least light you up a bit and make you feel better.
Appreciate the good around you
Appreciating the good around you can shift your mood almost instantly. Just the other day, when I found myself worrying, I’ve decided to notice all the good around me. A kind gentleman opened a door for me when I was about to walk into the coffee shop. A lovely lady at the supermarket wished me a nice day and really meant it. I was grateful for a beautiful weather that helped me to see things from a better perspective. There is always something to be thankful for.
Focus on how you want your life to go
When we worry about something, we often give it so much energy, it overtakes almost all the space in our minds. I find this very helpful: When you worry about something, try to think about the best possible outcome of what you worry about. This is focusing on what you want, instead of what you don’t want. I understand this may not be easy, but try. Set aside 10 minutes every day and visualise the best possible outcome for any situation you worry about. By visualising, daily, you can get into a good habit of doing this naturally. By doing so, you are giving a focus to something you want, instead of what you don’t want. And what we focus on always expands. Let’s try to focus on the good, on the positive, on the inspiring. Give yourself that 10 minutes, daily, and see how it feels.
Share how you feel with people you trust
I used to keep almost ‘all my thoughts and emotions’ to myself. I used to be the ‘suffer in silence’ type of person, and I’d ‘happily’ deal with problems quietly on my own. I didn’t want to bother anyone. After suffering an emotional breakdown, I quickly realised, keeping things to myself, all the time, wasn’t such a good idea. I learned to share how I feel with people I trust. Ever since I started sharing how I feel, I noticed so much weight coming off my shoulders. I stopped worrying what would others think of me and I put the thought, they wouldn’t want to listen to me, out of my mind. I realised, that people who love me and care about me will always like to listen to me and help me. In fact, it’s essential to express our emotions and share them with our loved ones. They can offer us support and a fresh, new perspective on life, which we might have not even considered before. Don’t be afraid to share how you feel with the people you trust.