We all have some regrets in life. We all would like to change certain things or rewind back to the past and erase them completely. Do I have regrets? Of course. There are many things I would have done differently. There are many examples in my own life where if I could, I would trust my inner knowing more and certain people less. Many people hurt me in life, but I must admit, I also hurt some people with what I said or done. Well, we are all guilty of something. But this is all over and done with now. I want to focus on the good, only remember the valuable lessons and enjoy my life to the fullest. I realised, regretting something is only going to keep me stuck in the past. This way I am unnecessarily re-living some difficult past experiences, and feeling the unpleasant emotions all over again unintentionally. What a waste of our precious energy and this beautiful life that is? But it doesn’t have to be that way. I am excited to share with you a few ways I deal with regrets and I strongly believe they will inspire you.
Take responsibility for your part
Taking responsibility for your actions, your behaviour and your choices is an important key to setting yourself free from regrets. We have all done things in the past we may not be proud of. Of course, some people might have wronged us too, but it is essential to take responsibility for our part in the situation. This will not only set us free from our regrets, but it will also allow us to step out of the victim zone. Always take responsibility for your life fully. It is one of the wisest choices you will ever make.
Learning from regrets
Past is not here anymore and there is nothing that can be changed about it, only your approach towards the past can be changed. Try to accept it and take on board the lessons you had a chance to learn. These lessons definitely taught you something important that will help you in the future and is essential to your personal and spiritual growth.
Are regrets affecting your daily life?
You may be daily replaying certain scenarios from your recent or even distant past. This is only keeping you stuck in the rut and preventing you from moving forward. My suggestion? Write your feelings down. Writing exercises are extremely powerful. They will allow you to take your worries and regrets out from your head and place them on a piece of paper. Even though it sounds simple, it is very effective. This way you will create space in your life and shift your focus by clearing your mind from anything unwanted.
Meditation is a wonderful tool when dealing with regrets. Sit in stillness and take a few deep breaths until you feel calm and relaxed. Think about the situation you are regretting. How do you feel? What do you see? What do you hear? Are you feeling any tension/discomfort at any area of your body? Is it in your chest, your stomach or your throat? Now, take a deep breath and send it to the space of the tension. Visualise your breath dissolving this tension. When you breathe out, visualise this discomfort leaving your body in a form of a dark cloud. Trust and know that you are letting it go completely. Repeat this meditation as many times as necessary. I find that some regrets are easier to dissolve than others. By choosing to let go of them regularly will create a new practice that will help you dissolve your regrets one at the time. Give it a go.
A thought to keep
Regrets only keep us stuck in the past. They are no longer relevant to our life and by thinking about them we are unnecessarily paying for the same mistakes again and again. Transforming our regrets into our wisdom can be a hard work at times, but once we begin it will empower us.
“Always look forward with hope, not backwards with regret.”