It’s okay, if you’ve outgrown some friends

Do you feel that you have nothing in common with some of your friends anymore? You used to spend so much time together and now you don’t even feel like picking up the phone when they call. Maybe you used to be inseparable, but now you have nothing to talk about. You feel that you don’t want to be investing your time into this friendship anymore. You make excuses that you are too busy to go out, even to respond to a text or a phone call. All that you have in common now is the past.

I want to put your mind at ease because it’s perfectly okay to feel like this. It is perfectly okay to outgrown your friends, even to part ways for good. You are always growing, expanding, learning, unlearning and this creates change. Your friend is changing too and what you might have had in common in the past has faded away. Your friendship may never be the same. You are both completely different and this is fine too.

I can fully relate to the above because I’ve been there and I am also going through something similar as I write these lines. There are still certain people in my life I know aren’t on ‘my frequency’ anymore and I find difficult to let go of. I care about them, I care about their feelings, but something is telling me that they are not my kind of people anymore. The feelings I’m having are powerful signals coming from my soul that something needs to change.

The friendship has served its purpose

Everyone comes to our life for a reason. Some come to teach you some powerful lessons, others come to teach you difficult lessons. Some teach you about truth, others about love, dreams and about what really matters. And if someone just came into your life as a proof that you don’t want to be hanging around them anymore? Then, learn from that lesson, let them go and make space for more meaningful relationships.

Embrace change

I believe that change is good. Change can clear the path and bring something fresh and new to you. This applies to your friendships too. When you don’t want to be connecting with someone anymore, that’s a sign. A powerful sign from your soul. Embrace it and be brave to do what’s right for you.

Celebrate relationships that make you feel good

And of course, celebrate all the amazing people in your life now. Express your gratitude to them. Tell these special people that you love them and appreciate them and that you are very thankful to have them in your life.

A thought to keep

It isn’t wise to continue friendships, just because you’ve known these people for life. If the friendship doesn’t feel right anymore, let it go. If you’ve been feeling emotionally drained for years while being surrounded by these people, you need to honestly reevaluate whether you want to still include them in your circles. This isn’t selfish, but it’s an act of self-love.

Most importantly, focus on what really matters to you. When you begin to fill yourself up, you’ll start feeling good about yourself and then you will start attracting people that will mirror your beautiful state. There are the people who are meant to be sharing this incredible life’s journey with you.

Jana Prackova

Jana Prackova is the founder of Mystic Butterfly® ~ a guide to your true self, writer, traveller and a spiritual life coach. She loves inspiring people and her mission is teaching others how to reach their true potential by connecting with their spiritual side. In her spare time, she flies aeroplanes, writes music and loves exploring the mysteries of the Universe. Jana has been featured in the LOOP flying magazine and The Flight School Times and inspired many aspiring pilots worldwide to follow their dreams. She is the author of Mystic Butterfly ~a guide to your true self, which came out on the 18th January 2019.

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