I recently recorded a podcast episode about transformation and healing emotions. In this episode I talked about my own experiences with healing my past, letting go of what it no longer serving me, so I can make space for what’s really meant for me. This work also includes being honest with myself. I used to struggle in this area and I was often dishonest when it came to my feelings. I thought, covering how I really feel by repeating positive statements would magically make my struggles disappear. I would pretend that everything’s was great and life was fantastic. The truth was the actual opposite. Let me point out, that I have nothing against positive affirmations or quotations, I still love them. They can truly brighten our day. But when it comes to self-honesty, I had to learn (and still learning) how to love myself for who I am, without pushing how I really feel away. Learning to love every aspect of myself: the beautiful, the dark, the happy, the confused is not always easy, but it’s truly liberating. It’s called self-love, and I am embracing it fully now. Self-love simply means having a healthy respect towards your beautiful self as a whole. Listed below are a few ways which I found very helpful when it comes to self-honesty.
1) Having a good cry
There is absolutely no shame in having a good cry. In the last couple of months, I am very emotional and cry just a little every single day and I am not ashamed to admit it. There is a beautiful transformation happening in my life right now and I am fully embracing it. I am healing my past and letting whatever comes up to the surface come up, so it can be fully felt, healed and released. It’s a beautiful, but also a painful process, and that’s okay. Having a good cry can help you become more honest with yourself and finally admitting your true feelings to yourself (some you may have been hiding for years).
2) Asking yourself what is working and what is not
This is important. It’s like with a relationship that already served its purpose. Some relationships did, a long time ago, and we may be the only ones who are still trying to save them just because we are so used to them. It’s time to let go. It’s time to start fresh and really becoming honest with yourself and your relationships (whether romantic, business or friendships) and with everything else that needs to go. If something’s wrong, admit it to yourself. Don’t try to fix everything and everyone when there is no point anymore.
3) Expressing yourself on the pages of your diary
Writing is a wonderful exercise which can assist you in healing and becoming really honest with yourself. Express yourself on the pages of your diary without editing yourself. It is yours and you can tell it anything you want without editing yourself. This can be incredibly therapeutic.