At a young age, I acquired a habit of perfectionism. Perfectionism is a tendency to set high standards, and a belief that things need to be done certain way. In some ways, my perfectionism serves me well. I don’t take things for granted, I am punctual, reliable and I keep my promises. When I say I will do something, I’m going to do it, and I do it the best way I can. This has always been my strength. But, there is also a down side of being a perfectionist. This habit sometimes brings unnecessary pressure and anxiety into my life. I remember, when I started writing and teaching, I really began noticing how controlling my perfectionism can be. I would find myself checking every single article dozens and dozens of times, only to find out later, there are still grammatical mistakes there after it’s been published. This would make me feel very edgy and under constant pressure. The same applies to my speaking. I am over-careful with the way I speak and with my pronunciation. I easily notice grammatical mistakes in myself and others, even though I know I’m not perfect myself, and I never will be. It can be exhausting.
But lately, I am learning to see things differently…
English is not my first language, so it will always be a little tricky at times. I know, that when I’m tired, the words don’t always flow through me as easily and effortlessly, comparing to when I feel good. I know, it’s not about the spelling or my pronunciation. It’s about the message I am sharing with the world. I am gradually letting go of the impossible perfection, by being more real and being more me. Of course, there is nothing wrong with striving for high standards. But, this is what I keep in mind now: The people who are drawn to my work, don’t come there to check my grammar or to focus on the way I speak. They come, because they seek comfort in the messages I share. So, I am creating, launching and learning along the way. And I am very excited about all of my creations. I know, they will always reach the right people, the people who are meant to find them. I keep reminding myself, that nobody’s perfect, to relax and go with the flow. Listed bellow are four of my favourite ways how I deal with my perfectionism habit. If you see yourself as a perfectionist too, may these suggestions inspire you.
1) Create, launch and learn
I learned now, that if I waited for everything to be perfect, I would never create anything at all. None of my articles, poems, songs or podcasts would exist. I’ve made the decision to create, to launch and learn along the way. We are all full of inspiring ideas, which are waiting to be expressed in this physical reality we live in. Don’t wait, don’t hide and get them out to the world. Your unique voice matters.
2) Ask for feedback
I ask for feedback all the time. Some feedback can be more difficult to receive than other, but I welcome other’s opinions. It’s nice to see someone else’s perspective. It’s a great learning experience, and it always helps me improve my work. We only see the world through our own filters, it is also beneficial to be open to a different point of view.
3) Be proud of you and your work
Be proud of you and your work my friend. You are good enough, just as you are. You have nothing to prove to anybody. Just do your best in any given moment. You and your work matter. Your dreams came to you for a reason, and it’s your job to bring them to the world.
4) Relax and have fun
Creating is a fun process. Let’s keep it that way. Life is such a beautiful journey, and it’s a waste of time to be putting an extra pressure on ourselves for things to look perfect. Do what makes you happy and have fun along the way. You are always learning and always growing. Have fun!