My little niece is almost three. After the Holidays, she started going to nursery. The first day at the nursery went great. She had a lovely time with her teacher and playing with the other kids in her classroom. Although the first day went beyond our expectations, the following day, in the morning, she felt a little uneasy to go back. She had tears in her eyes and was resisting it. Then, as soon as she’s noticed her teacher and the other kids in the classroom, she said to my sister: ‘Mum, wipe my tears, I’m going in.’ What a brave, little girl. When my sister told me this story, I was so proud of her and it made me emotional too. ‘That’s the right attitude’… I thought to myself. It has also inspired today’s blog post, where I want to talk to you about bravery.
Are you afraid to step out of your comfort zone? Is there something you want to be doing, but you are just too scared to take the first step? Do you have any limiting beliefs which have been holding you back? Well, you are not alone. We all have our own fears, we hesitate, we second-guess whether we are able to do something or not.
Some of you who follow my Mystic Butterfly posts for a while might have heard this story from my pilot training. When I was learning to fly I was excited about flying, but I was also scared. Especially when it came to the first, few solo flights. My heart would be raising, my palms would sweat and I would feel very uneasy every time I was about to take the aeroplane up to the skies on my own.
Well, ever since I can remember I have been quite a fearful person. At school I was afraid to raise my hand and speak up when I had to, I used to be quite apprehensive to make a complaint at the department store, which I had every rights to make or to stand up for myself when somebody made fun of me. I’m naturally a quiet and introverted person, and to navigate, with my nature, in the world that is definitely built for the outgoing and extroverted people has always been a challenge.
After a while, realising I need to toughen up, I learnt to be stronger and gained some confidence which served me well, even though I’m still an introvert and I always will be. I’ve realised, that if I want to do something, I have to go out there, face my fears and get it. I learnt how to step out of my comfort zone sometimes, even though I was scared. So, despite my fear, I would get out there and do what I was afraid to do. I realised, it is better to ride with a fear than living with a wondering, what if I did that. I also used this strategy while learning to fly and it brought so many rewards into my life, not only my pilot’s license. I learned so much about myself, about my life and what I’m capable of doing when I set my mind to it.
Is there any area in your life where you could you be more brave, more forthcoming, more outspoken, to be more your authentic self? Take a deep breath and despite all the fears and any crazy scenarios and lies your mind comes up with, take a first step. Even the smallest steps can slowly add up to great results. Say a big YES to new things. Do at least one thing that scares you every week, even every day. Be your own encourager and never ever give up.