Speak up & stand in your power

Ever since I can remember, I have been afraid of standing up for myself. I often said yes when I meant no, just to please others. I would go out of my way doing favours for other people, so they wouldn’t get upset with me, even though I knew they wouldn’t do the same for me. I didn’t know what being assertive meant and thought of myself as inferior and worthless. All I was striving for was to be liked, accepted and have friends. With that, came lots of advantage-taking and emotional pain. I had no boundaries and this caused me so much inner suffering.

In terms of speaking up, this was a huge deal for me. I must admit, I still detour into this place more than you may think. Picking up the phone and deal with something that can’t be resolved any other way, making a complaint at a department store which I have a full right to make can still be a big challenge for me. Why? I’m still afraid. I still haven’t healed myself fully, my past fears and feelings of inadequacy. That’s the truth.

Confidence

Most people who don’t know me think I’m very confident. In my case, confidence is a learned skill. By making this statement I don’t mean I’m faking it or I’m pretending to be someone I’m not. I’ve passed that stage. What I mean, however, is that we live in a tough world, and learning to be tough and becoming more confident is a necessity, especially for us introverts. On the other hand, I am very confident in my ideas and beliefs, and I’m so happy this comes to me naturally.

Setting boundaries

The year 2010 was a year of big changes for me when my inner transformation truly began. Little did that I know at the time, it will take years to shed off many old energies and unlearning bad habits which caused me so much pain and anxiety. I’m still working on it, but the transformation I am seeing is incredible. I’m learning to speak up more and fear the world less. I’m learning to stand in my power and be the person I truly am without pretending or trying to impress anyone. It’s not always an easy process, but I am willing to be a life long student if I must.

Why am I sharing all this with you today?

  • To help you be your authentic self while you are working on bettering yourself
  • To give you permission to step out of your own comfort zone, so you can start becoming the person you truly are
  • To help you release the blocks that have been holding you back and step into your truth, fully
  • To help you accept that it is okay to disappoint people when their requests don’t resonate with your truth
  • To help you let go of old beliefs and labels others may have placed on you and you so deeply accepted

“Own your truth. Be who you came here to be. Don’t be ashamed of your story and show the world the beautiful person and soul that you truly are.”

~Jana Prackova 


Tired of getting other people’s approval

We all want to be liked and accepted. We all want an occasional acknowledgement that what we are doing is right and we are doing it well. With social media being a big part of our lives these days, some of us measure our worth by the ‘Likes’ and comments we get on these platforms.
I must admit, I sometimes too, find myself checking the ‘Likes’ and comments, to see how are people responding to my sharings.
And here is something very interesting I’ve noticed recently: When I post something very positive, not many people actually respond to it and I can sense they don’t really like the positivity, as strange as this may sound (by like, I don’t only mean pressing the ‘Like’ button). I often sense the energy of resentment towards the positive posts. But that’s okay.
I’m not upset about this, because, I don’t want people ‘liking’ something just for the sake of liking it. And none of this really matters anyway. What I’m referring to is that I feel people would rather criticize others (whether that’s in their mind or publicly) than cheering them up when they are doing well. People are more comfortable in their unhappiness because it’s familiar. Seeing a positive post may actually trigger something within them they are not ready to face.

No, I’m not always positive and inspiring. Who is?

I’m not always positive, but as I’m becoming more and more honest with myself and letting go many old resentments and grudges, I am able to find beauty in others and the jealousy and inferiority are slowly fading away. I’m not going to lie, I used to be quite depressed, for many years I suffered from severe anxiety, I lived in so much fear and this was making me feel miserable, jealous and sometimes even unpleasant to others. And the truth is, I still get triggered by some people. Who doesn’t? But there is a big difference in my life now. I love seeing others succeeding. I love seeing others happy and positive. They are a reflection of my own successful, happy and positive self. When it comes to social media, I deliberately search for positive messages, because they make me feel good, and of course, when I get inspired by something, I want to share it with others too. It’s uplifting, inspiring and can help change someone’s day, even their life. That’s my reason for sharing positive messages around the Cyber-Space. 

Forget about the ‘Likes’ it’s about doing what you love

Your ‘Likes’ on social media do not define you. Focus on you, your life, your loved ones, your priorities. Be yourself, and if you want to post ten times a day on Facebook or Instagram, do so. If someone doesn’t like it, they have a choice of unfriending you or unfollowing you, and this has nothing to do with you. Do what resonates with you and what brings the most joy to your soul. You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone, you don’t have to justify anything to anyone. Just be yourself, make mistakes and enjoy the beauty of this life. This is your journey and only you decide what you want to do with it.

I will leave you with this inspiring quote today:

“Stop looking outside for scraps of pleasure and fulfilment, for validation, security, or love -you have a treasure within that is infinitely greater than anything the world can offer.” ~Eckhart Tolle 


From a procrastinator to an action taker

Hello to all procrastinators. You know who you are, so let’s get right to the point. Are you the one who always complains about not having enough time or coming up with all sorts of excuses (having no energy, not enough finances, being too tired, too cold etc.)? I get it. We all detour to these places once in a while. The question is: Is procrastination starting to affect your every daily life?

I’ve realised that doing the work that has been on your mind doesn’t take that long at all. What does take long, however, is thinking about it. So when I, for example, procrastinate on something, let’s say writing an article, I may spend more time and energy having it in the back of my mind rather than investing my time to actually write. The task may only take me half an hour, yet I sometimes waste 2-3 days putting it aside. When I finally get round to it, I’m amazed how quickly I was able to complete it.

Invest your time to things that matter

We all have 24 hours a day and it’s up to us how we spend these 24 hours. Do you invest most of your time on mindless scrolling through social media or do you actually do the things you say you have no time for? This is a time to get honest with yourself. Imagine how much you could accomplish by adjusting your daily habits? There is a huge difference between being busy and being busy doing things that matter. So what can you discard and what can you keep to create more space in your life?

Begin and the results will follow

Take action today. No more excuses, simply go and do it. Remember what we said earlier, the actual work doesn’t take that long, it’s the thinking about it that takes forever and so much space in your busy mind. Make a decision today, that you are going to step out of the procrastinator zone and you will become that action taker you know you are. So, let’s start making those dreams a reality. It’s time to take action.

A thought to keep

“The best way to get something done is to begin.” ~Author unknown 


What would you like to manifest in your life? Simply decide to have it now

What if I told you that with one simple decision you can change your life? What if I told you that with one simple decision you can get healthy, prosperous, successful or happier? What if I told you that your true power lies within yourself, and by changing your perspective you can shift anything you want in your life.

So, what is it that you truly desire? What would you like to accomplish? What would you like to see happening in your life now? Is it having more finances, a new career, better health or a beautiful relationship? Simply decide.

When you make a decision, you are putting your invisible desire out to the universe and saying, you are ready to see it in your physical reality. Of course, this process may take a little while, but this is entirely up to you and the frequency you put yourself on. It also depends on your belief system and your feeling about it.

Do you feel worthy of your desire? Do you truly believe it can be yours? If so, you are closer than you may think. Feel the feelings of already feeling how you are going to feel when your desire is manifested. Visualising and feeling your desire with you now are the secrets of a creative process. You have to see it in your mind’s eye and feel it within the whole level of your being before it happens. 

Your decision changes everything

Making a decision about what you truly want, means stepping out of your current frequency into a new and higher frequency. This will start creating your new reality. Your current reality is the result of the choices you have made up to this point. If you want to change that reality, you have to change your frequency. And you change your frequency by making a new, conscious decision. This way, you begin the process of re-programming your mind.

My boyfriend and I are currently in the process of changing our perspective on things we thought wouldn’t be possible. We are re-programming our mindsets, making new and exciting choices and letting go of old stories and beliefs. It is a very refreshing process. The results we are starting to see are incredible, and new ideas and possibilities are lining up in front of us almost on a daily basis.

The power lies within you

You are an amazing universal artist and you should start using your magical power now. Start creating the life you desire. You truly deserve it.


Exciting News: The Mystic Butterfly Notebook is here!

I am so excited to share with you that I recently created my first Mystic Butterfly Notebook with a help of two amazing women, my wonderful sister Maria, a talented artist and a creative and lovely Jane, a graphic designer and author. The notebook will be officially out very soon and I will be announcing the date in the next couple of weeks.

The Mystic Butterfly Notebook can be used in a couple of ways:

1) It’s here to accompany my book Mystic Butterfly ~a guide to your true self

I strongly encourage you to use it when you are working through the exercises in the book. Write it all down and keep it as a guide you can refer to.

2) To begin each day by listing things you are grateful for & fill the rest of the pages with your thoughts, feelings, dreams & visions for the future

Every left-hand side page begins with a saying: Today I am grateful for… which basically means, you can use it as a journal. Start each day by listing things you are grateful for. When you adopt this as a daily practice, you can set yourself on a positive note first thing in the morning. Remember that when we are grateful for what we already have in our lives, that often turns everything else into enough. What a wonderful exercise to begin the day.

At the bottom of every right-hand side page, is a positive affirmation (a different one for every day), which is designed to inspire you. Fill the pages of your notebook with your thoughts, feelings, dreams and visions for the future. It is yours and you can say it all your secrets and desires.

The notebook comes in a hardback cover format and has 154 pages.

I can’t even express how happy I am about this new creation and I really believe it will serve you well. If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me: jana@mysticbutterfly.co.uk and I will get back to you within 48 hours.


You were born to create

All of us came to the Earth with so many amazing gifts which are unique and valuable. There has never been anybody like you and there is never going to be. Therefore it’s important to awaken your creative genius that possesses these gifts.

Your dreams matter and your creativity is an internal compass leading you to your beautiful and ‘one in a lifetime’ life’s purpose on this planet. We all have a purpose here and that purpose is unique to every single one of us.

How do you find it?

The simplest way to start discovering your purpose is by focusing on things you truly love, the things you do by choice and bring the most joy to your soul. This is when your creativity comes in. Begin nourishing the creative part of yourself by making space for your inner artist to come out.

I’ve created a short, 4 minutes video which includes positive affirmations and it can assist you with your creativity.

Listen to it whenever you need a little inspiration or help with your creative projects or when you feel you are ready to step into your truth and find your unique life’s purpose. I really believe it can help you awaken that beautiful part of you which is full of wonderful, fresh and creative ideas.

Creativity Affirmations:


Self-Love Affirmations (video)

This week, I’m excited to share with you a new video (linked below) with affirmations for self-love. What are positive affirmations? Positive affirmations are positive statements that can boost your confidence, raise your energy levels and make you feel happy when repeated over and over again.

I have been introduced to affirmations years ago by a beautiful, transformational teacher Louise Hay. When I first read her book, You can heal your life, it made a big shift in my life and I became very aware of my day to day language (the words I was speaking and the thoughts I was thinking).

We often don’t realise that our thinking impacts our outside experiences. When you think a thought and you put a feeling underneath that thought…this creates a vibration. This vibration affects the entire Universe (believe it or not). Louise says in her book: “Every thought you think and every word you speak is creating your future!” From my own experience, I 100% agree. Using positive affirmations on a daily basis can shift your perception, and your life can start to change in an instant. But you really have to do the work. It doesn’t happen overnight, although miracles happen when the seed is planted.

Positive ~ Personal ~ Present Tense

They are a few very important points you need to know before you start using positive affirmations. First, they have to be: Positive, Personal and in a Present tense. I call it 3P’s!

Let me give you an example! Affirmation: “I am healthy and I am happy now!” It is positive, it is personal, because it applies to your life, and it is in the present tense because you are affirming that it is happening right now. Be aware of using affirmations in the future tense, something like: “One day, I will be successful”  That’s a future statement, which may never happen, and this way you are only delaying the success to flow into your life now. A better way of saying it would be: “I am successful in all areas of my life!” By repeating this kind of affirmation, you are saying YES to the Universe and the abundance can flow into your life now. But here is another important part: If you want your affirmations to work, you have to Feel the words you are saying!  You have to feel healthy now, you have to feel prosperous now, you have to feel successful now, you have to feel beautiful now. Feel those feelings NOW! This is one of the major keys to bring what you desire into your life.

Give yourself time

Start forming this new habit and begin talking to yourself positively, and at the same time, feel what you are saying. In the beginning, it may feel like a lie, but after some time it will become more natural for you. Have fun in this process and enjoy the new positive changes that are taking place in your life.

So, this is just a little introduction to positive affirmations. In the video below, are affirmations for self-love. Listen to it whenever you feel you need to give yourself some extra boost of love and care. It’s only over 3 minutes long, but I believe it can help you shift your energy and teach how to love and accept on a deeper level. Remember that loving yourself is not selfish. It’s an act of self-appreciation and healthy respect towards your beautiful self.


It’s okay, if you’ve outgrown some friends

Do you feel that you have nothing in common with some of your friends anymore? You used to spend so much time together and now you don’t even feel like picking up the phone when they call. Maybe you used to be inseparable, but now you have nothing to talk about. You feel that you don’t want to be investing your time into this friendship anymore. You make excuses that you are too busy to go out, even to respond to a text or a phone call. All that you have in common now is the past.

I want to put your mind at ease because it’s perfectly okay to feel like this. It is perfectly okay to outgrown your friends, even to part ways for good. You are always growing, expanding, learning, unlearning and this creates change. Your friend is changing too and what you might have had in common in the past has faded away. Your friendship may never be the same. You are both completely different and this is fine too.

I can fully relate to the above because I’ve been there and I am also going through something similar as I write these lines. There are still certain people in my life I know aren’t on ‘my frequency’ anymore and I find difficult to let go of. I care about them, I care about their feelings, but something is telling me that they are not my kind of people anymore. The feelings I’m having are powerful signals coming from my soul that something needs to change.

The friendship has served its purpose

Everyone comes to our life for a reason. Some come to teach you some powerful lessons, others come to teach you difficult lessons. Some teach you about truth, others about love, dreams and about what really matters. And if someone just came into your life as a proof that you don’t want to be hanging around them anymore? Then, learn from that lesson, let them go and make space for more meaningful relationships.

Embrace change

I believe that change is good. Change can clear the path and bring something fresh and new to you. This applies to your friendships too. When you don’t want to be connecting with someone anymore, that’s a sign. A powerful sign from your soul. Embrace it and be brave to do what’s right for you.

Celebrate relationships that make you feel good

And of course, celebrate all the amazing people in your life now. Express your gratitude to them. Tell these special people that you love them and appreciate them and that you are very thankful to have them in your life.

A thought to keep

It isn’t wise to continue friendships, just because you’ve known these people for life. If the friendship doesn’t feel right anymore, let it go. If you’ve been feeling emotionally drained for years while being surrounded by these people, you need to honestly reevaluate whether you want to still include them in your circles. This isn’t selfish, but it’s an act of self-love.

Most importantly, focus on what really matters to you. When you begin to fill yourself up, you’ll start feeling good about yourself and then you will start attracting people that will mirror your beautiful state. There are the people who are meant to be sharing this incredible life’s journey with you.


Are you letting the wrong people take up space in your mind?

A couple of weeks ago, I was thinking how to inspire my beautiful community on social media. A lovely idea came to my mind within a few minutes. I immediately created a beautiful collage and was ready to share it on social media. Then, suddenly, a particular person came to my mind, which I believed ‘would raise their eyebrows’ at my post and would think: There we go again. Another one of Jana’s inspiring, self-help stuff.”

Within minutes, I began doubting myself and questioning the inspiring message I was so excited about just a minute ago. I decided not to post it. An hour went by and I thought: Isn’t that interesting? Why do we care so much about other’s opinions in a way we begin to doubt our creativity, ourselves?

In the end, I posted my inspiring message anyway and let the self-doubt fade away. And I also learned a lesson from this. It made me realise how much power I’m still wasting, by worrying what other people think of me, people who don’t really know me, my story and how hard I worked and I’m still working and how tired I am of seeking their approval.

So why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we strive to be so likeable and giving these people who don’t really matter so much of our precious energy? It’s because we have been programmed this way. There are rules we need to follow, certain standards to live by, success to strive for. And now, with the internet and especially social media, we feel even more pressure because we compare ourselves to others and what we believe their lives look like. Personally, I love social media, but unfortunately, the comparison that comes with it is doing more harm than good.

Do what feels right for you

Do what pleases you and forget about the rest. Easier said, then done, hmmmm? I know. But listen: Do you want to be always someone’s prisoner, always worry or obsess what they think? Of course not. Focus on you and do what makes you feel good and fulfils you. Leave their opinions and criticism to themselves.

And the truth is: they don’t really think about you, but are busy living their own lives

The amount of time and space we give others in our minds is absolutely crazy and completely unnecessary. Do yourself a favour and stop it at once. Everyone is living their own life, focusing, mainly, on themselves and their own things. They have their own worries, struggles and fears and are not really thinking about you and what you are up to. They are focused on their own lives.

Become more present

Being fully present prevents your mind from wandering to places that disempower you. Be aware of this and every time your thoughts start flying to places you don’t want to go, stop and ask yourself: Where am I? And of course, you know the answer, you are right here, right now at this moment. And this is the only place where the true life exists.


If I could talk to my younger self, these are the 7 things I would tell her…

When I was younger, I lived in so much worry and fear. I worried about everything. What other people thought of me, whether I said the right thing or whether I presented myself the right way. Other people’s opinions were so important to me that they were controlling my life in a great way.

When we are very young we have a completely different outlook on life. This outlook can be somehow overwhelming. This was certainly the case for me. But, if I ever had the opportunity to talk to my younger self, there are so many things I would tell her. I would give her so much love, support and reassurance that there is nothing to worry about, only things to experience and lessons to learn from.

If you could talk to your younger self, what would you tell him or her? What words would you use to encourage them and make them feel better when they feel scared? What would you say to them to calm them down? Please share your thoughts in the comments below. You never know who may read them and they can even save someone’s life.

I believe this is a very important topic to talk about. The younger generation can sometimes feel so overwhelmed about life in general, and can definitely benefit and learn from our mistakes, that’s why is important to talk about them. Listed below are a few of the things I would definitely say to that scared young girl I used to be if I had the opportunity.

1) Don’t worry what other people think of you

Others are so busy thinking about themselves and not about you. When we are younger, we think the opposite. Remember, the most important thing is what you think about you.

2) Be yourself

You are unique. There has never been anybody like you and there is never going to be. Embrace all that is you and celebrate your beautiful individuality.

3) Your past mistakes are powerful lessons

When I used to make mistakes, I would beat myself up for them for ages. Look at your mistakes as powerful lessons which needed to be learnt to help you become the person you want to become.

4) Put yourself first, always

Always follow your dreams. Don’t postpone, don’t procrastinate, don’t get influenced by other’s opinions. When I was younger, I was always searching for romantic love. When I was in a relationship, that other person would become my priority. I would put all my dreams and needs aside, and would only focus on the person I was ‘so in love with’. There was a huge price to pay for that. I was never happy, because I stopped focusing on me and my dreams. Later, I realised, I am the most important person in my own life and I will always be. I began putting myself first. This wasn’t selfish, but an act of self-love and respect towards myself. Put yourself first, always.

5) Listen to your intuition

When I was a child, my intuition was very strong and I fully trusted it. As I got older I stopped listening to it and began to doubt it. Luckily, I realised how important and valuable my intuition is. Always listen to your inner wisdom, it will never fail you.

6) Don’t take life so seriously

When we are young, we take everything so seriously, including the things that don’t really matter. Life doesn’t have to be that serious. The same way seasons of the year change, the seasons of life change too. Go through them gracefully. When something doesn’t work out the way you planned it, trust and know that there is something way better on its way to you.

7) You are good enough, just as you are

You are good enough and you have nothing to prove to anybody. You don’t need to compare yourself to others, dress like others, act like others to be accepted by this society. You are good enough, just as you are. Work on yourself, keep improving, educate yourself, but at the same time know that you are good enough and wonderful as you are.