Are you constantly waiting to be happy? Stop! (this isn’t a blog about how to happy)

First of all, I would like to say thank you for all your kind comments and a great response to my last blog. I really appreciate every single one of you.

So….Happiness. Everyone is searching for it, but are we ever going to find it? My philosophy, however strange it may sound, is to stop that search and just be. Focus on what inspires you, focus on what brings the most joy to your soul and the moments of happiness will fly into your life naturally. Happy moments always come and go. Happiness is a temporary state, not an ongoing thing.

We need to embrace the seasons of life we go through. We need to appreciate when our life blooms and the skies are blue, but we need to be patient while the dark clouds are being blown away, so the sun can start shining again. And here is the truth: If we were always happy, we wouldn’t appreciate the good and happy moments of life the same way as we do when they come back to us again and again. So, how about that? Can you relate to this way of looking at happiness?

So, as I already mentioned, do what brings you joy and what inspires you. It will lead you to happy moments. Focus on what you desire and take daily action towards it. Enjoy the little things in life, the things you often take for granted. Be grateful. Gratitude turns what you have into enough. Celebrate your achievements, no matter how small they may be. Tell yourself that you love and appreciate yourself. Do good in the world and smile at people even without reason, it will not only shift their energy or make their day, but yours too.  And most importantly, be who you are, embrace your uniqueness and your individuality. There has never been anybody like you and there is never going to be.

And lastly, remember that:

“Happiness comes in waves. It’ll  find you again.” 

No, I’m not always positive, inspiring & happy

Many people who don’t really know me, think I’m always about positive vibes, happiness, rainbows and butterflies. Even though I love that idea, life is somehow different in a reality. I have my own struggles, bad days, negative thoughts and upsets. Of course, I wouldn’t share those things on the internet in full details, but what I do instead, is talk about what I’m learning from those experiences so they can inspire and help others. Not everything is as we perceive it, not everyone is who we may think they are.

…and this is one of the reasons not to compare yourself to other people

On the outside, we may think, that others have it ‘all together’ while the truth may lie somewhere else. My own life is an example of that. The last two years have been quite tough for me emotionally, however, there have been fleeting moments of light and happiness that always keep me going. Most people who you follow online may not be exactly as you perceive them. The work colleague who is always smiling may be going through something you know nothing about. Behind those false masks may be a person who is very unhappy, hurt and struggling deeply. The trouble is, we have been taught to be strong, to hide our emotions, without being honest with ourselves and others how we really feel. I’m getting a bit tired of that game. Therefore, I want to share with you more and more of my truth, at least through these blog posts, and by doing so, perhaps give others permission to do the same.

The truth about Jana

Yes, I want to keep inspiring you guys. Yes, I’m excited about so many things in life. And yes, there are great things unfolding in front of me right now, but the truth is: I also feel scared, tired, demotivated, angry, unhappy and unbalanced sometimes. I cry a lot to relieve my emotional pain, but I also cry tears of joy when something works out beautifully for me. The passing of one of my best friends earlier this year really affected me. I miss my friend deeply, but I’m grateful that our paths have crossed and I’m keeping the happy moments we shared in my heart forever. A couple of years ago, two people, I considered great friends and who have been in my life for over a decade betrayed me. But as difficult as this situation was, it made me more grateful for the real friends I have and I can fully rely on. So many things I worked so hard for didn’t work out for me, but I am grateful for the fantastic opportunities these redirections brought into my life.

So, as you can see my friends, life is not always about rainbows, sunshine and butterflies, but doing our best in any given moment despite the challenges we face is what helps us rise again and again.

Stop procrastinating & start creating

The older I get, the more I’m noticing how edgy and uncomfortable postponing my dreams and procrastinating makes me feel. The time is passing, and every day that ends is not coming back to us. I don’t want this post to sound depressing or negative, but the question is: what are we all waiting for? Why are we postponing all these beautiful dreams we have. Why are we procrastinating on things we really want to do, and often put them aside, waiting for a ‘better time’ to begin? Our dreams should be our priority. These dreams came to us for a reason and it is up to us to bring them into a reality. Listed below are few of my briefs suggestions on how to stop procrastinating and start creating.

Take daily steps towards your dreams

What are you waiting for? Take action towards your dreams every single day. Even a small step is a step, and forward is always forward.

You don’t want to regret things later

You don’t want to regret later that you didn’t do something, because you didn’t feel like doing it. So many older people regret and wish if they were younger they would follow their dreams. Act when you can.

Don’t put off till tomorrow what you can do today

Yes, do it today. That class you always wanted to take. That phone call you have been postponing for a couple of weeks. The painting you want to begin. Begin today, even if you only spend 10 minutes on it. We all come with many silly excuses why we can’t. Think of at least three ways every day why you can.

Create a deadline

There are seven days in the week and someday isn’t one of them. Getting deadlines can be a great way to get things done. I do this all the time. Pencil in the date and time for your creative work in your diary and mark it as a non-negotiable.

A thought to keep

“The greatest amount of wasted time is the time not getting started.” ~Dawson Trotman 

When you are forced to slow down

I’m writing this post a little ‘last minute’ on Monday afternoon. I wasn’t planning to post a blog this week, because I haven’t been feeling very well since last Thursday, but in the end, decided to say a few words. I’m pleased to say I’m feeling much better today and planning to celebrate Halloween on Wednesday with my sister’s children.

So, what happened…

I came to Slovakia last Sunday, straight after a work trip I took to Los Angeles. When I finally arrived here, I realised I haven’t slept properly for about 38 hours. I knew I needed to finally relax and forget about working altogether. However, I’m the kind of person who is always looking to do something productive and being creative.

For a few days beside enjoying the time with my family, I’ve been fitting in some work until Thursday, when I began feeling a bit tired. By the evening I wasn’t feeling very well at all. The following morning I woke up with a bad headache, blocked sinuses and a sore throat. That headache with the blocked sinuses lasted a few days and I was feeling very weak. I couldn’t even stand on my own two feet. I don’t remember last time I felt this bad. My family has been fantastic, as always, and looked after me very well. Although I am still not 100%, I’m feeling so much better.

I was certainly forced to rest. I slept a lot and have been doing absolutely nothing, which I’m lately not very familiar with. This allowed me to gain the energy I was lacking. Sometimes, we might be forced to slow down by catching a cold or flu, so we finally pay attention to the universal signs to look after ourselves. Another time, something may not work out, because the Universe is trying to protect us from something that is not meant for us.

What did I learn from this experience? To listen to my body when it’s tired and rest more. To listen to my intuition and pay attention to the sings that are always around me. To look after myself more: physically, spiritually, mentally and emotionally.

“In all the chaos and hurry, do not forget to notice the beauty and miracle of this world. Slow down. Notice. Observe. Be aware. Allow presence and awe to come back into your life.” ~Brendon Burchard 

Celebrate your uniqueness

You are important, you are worthy, you are magical, you are amazing. You have many incredible gifts within you, even if you think you don’t. Most importantly, what makes you different makes you beautiful and unique. Unfortunately, many people compare themselves to others and some strive to be more like their idols rather than themselves. I am guilty of this myself. For many years I wasn’t accepting myself for who I was and was afraid of my truth. I thought my truth was not good enough for this world. But not good enough for whom and not good enough for who’s standard? Luckily, I realised, this was not a way to go about life. I made the decision to embrace all that is me, my differences and bring you along with me on this journey by sharing my truth, and the raw, flawed and imperfect Jana I love so much.

Your individuality is your greatest asset

There has never been anybody like you and there is never going to be. Embrace that and be who you came here to be. I often remind this to myself when I’m creating something. When you are an artist or a creative and trying to be put something original in the world, people may say: ‘It has already been done.’ The truth is, yes, lots of ideas are out there already, but the way YOU create it and the way YOU say it makes it unique. It hasn’t been done by YOU yet, with a touch of your unique perspective.

They laugh at me because I’m different…

There is a famous quote by Kurt Cobain: “They laugh at me because I’m different. I laugh at them because they are all the same.” Well, you don’t have to laugh at anyone and I suggest you don’t. Unfortunately, many of us strive to be like others, copy others, compare themselves to the celebrities on the TV or someone on social media? Again, be you, that’s where your power lies.

The only validation you need is the one from yourself

Since the young age, we got used to waiting for and expecting other’s praise or approval. Getting validation when getting good marks at school or when we’ve done something right kept our egos satisfied. Even though it feels good temporarily, you should really praise yourself and celebrate YOU without waiting for someone else telling you how well you have done. Don’t seek validation from the outside world. Get it from yourself and get it whenever you want.

“Just be yourself. Let people see the real, imperfect, flawed, quirky, weird, beautiful and magical person that you are.” ~Mandy Hale 

When life gets too busy

The truth is, I had quite a hectic past few weeks. Finding myself running around and busier than usual, were just a few of the warning signals to slow down. I am not mentioning this to complain. I must admit, many amazing things are happening as a result of putting in all this effort. But what I am referring to, is that I’ve noticed I’ve been finding quite difficult to switch off and just relax. This has been happening even during my meditation, which is my twice a day non-negotiable. Some days were so hectic, I looked at meditation as ‘just another thing’ I have to cross off my to-do-list. That was a turning point for me. I hated feeling this way and I soon realised this craziness had to stop. Even when you are busy, looking after yourself and pausing several times a day should be your number one priority. I had to remind myself of this last week when my lack of energy and ‘too much to do’ overtook everything else. Of course, as always, I love teaching what I’m learning and discovering, so listed below are a few ways I find very useful in the midst of a very busy period of my life. I hope they can inspire you.

Pause and just BE

This has become my daily reminder. Lately, as I’ve been noticing a tendency of always doing something, I’ve been finding hard to keep still and relax, even when I meditate (as mentioned above). So what am I learning from this experience? I’m learning to pause and just BE. I actually began last week by forcing myself to just lie down on the sofa, staring at the ceiling, doing absolutely nothing. It was hard at first, but it’s starting to work now. Remember to pause several times a day, breathe and just BE. Those moments are priceless.

Head out to the woods

Nature is a natural healer and a story-teller. When life gets hectic, I know I need to go home to my true self and it always helps when I head out to nature. I gain clarity and peace of mind while surrounded by nature’s beauty. I feel more present and at peace with myself and the world around me. My tip when life gets hectic? Go somewhere natural at least three times a week. It will serve you well.

Do something nice for yourself

Whether is taking yourself on a date (I love doing that by the way), watching a funny film or taking a relaxing bath. Most of us live such busy ‘routine’ lifestyles. We wake up, have breakfast, go to work, come back, have dinner, watch TV, go to bed and repeat it all over again the following day. To change that, add something nice to your daily routine and also plan something to look forward to.

I will leave you with this true and powerful statement:

“Never get so busy making a living, that you forget to make a life.” 

Create a reality that works for you

Lately, especially in the last couple of months, I keep noticing more and more hate, arguments and negativity in the world. Well, I do understand when people react from a place of fear, worry and uncertainty. The world we live in became very unsettled and many people live in so much fear and anxiety about what tomorrow’s going to bring. But at the same time, the world is the incredibly beautiful place, full of magic, wonder and great opportunities. Based on all of the above, I thought, today would be a great day to reverse the conversation from the negative frequency and change our perspective. All of us can do that. We can all rise above any limitation and negativity we face. I call it: Creating a reality that works for us, despite what’s going on around us.

Your beliefs mirror the world you see

I think of you and I, as powerful universal beings with so much potential for greatness. That’s who you really are. You have so much wisdom within you to create magnificent things. You need to wake up from the illusion that has been placed upon you. When you do that, magical things will start to happen. You will no longer perceive yourself as somebody who is just a participant of what is going on around you. You are going to realise, you are the co-creator of that what you are experiencing and you have a big part to play. 

Step out of the victim zone

It’s your choice and only yours alone. Pointing your finger at somebody, e.g. government, your boss, neighbour, difficult spouse etc. is not going to get you anywhere. On the contrary, taking responsibility for your own life and your own choices can make a huge difference. Know your truth and create the reality you want to see based on that truth.

Who is right and who is wrong?

No one is right and no one is wrong. It’s all just a perception of the world we see and what we accepted to be true for us. There is no one to blame. Everyone holds their own beliefs, understandings and knowledge at any given moment, which can always shift or dissolve. We all have different points of view and we will always have them. We are not going to get on with everyone and we shouldn’t even try to do that. We are all on a different stage of this journey called life as humans or souls. Not everyone has the same level of awareness and that’s okay. Be kind to each other and be compassionate towards each other. We all need to come to our own realisations when the time is right for us.

I created a reality that works for me

I don’t ignore what is going on in the world. Of course, I too get upset about it, but by me being upset for more than I should is not going to make the situation any better. I choose not to hang around in the darkness for too long now. However, bringing positive vibrations and sending them out to the world, will make a difference, first in my own world and later in the wider world. Don’t think you are too insignificant to make a difference. I also believe what we are going through collectively right now is needed for the humanity to finally wake up and take responsibility for the personal power each of us holds, but unfortunately give away so easily. To sum up, as I said at the beginning, the world is a beautiful place and we should cherish it. I love living in the reality where I can see lots of beauty, such as our amazing nature. I am grateful to be living in the world where there is music that always puts a smile on my face. I love living in the world where there are so many amazing human beings that have touched my life in so many amazing ways. So, therefore, I choose every day to create a reality that works for me, knowing that what I focus on will expand, and I will soon see in front of me because the world I see is always a reflection of my inner state.

A thought to keep

“Rise above the illusion. Create a reality that works for you, and start living the life you desire. Why wait? It’s your journey, make it the way you want to.”

~Jana Prackova 

Trust your inner wisdom, it knows best

My dad always says: Value other people’s advice but always follow your own inner wisdom. This advice always serves me well. But of course, like all of us, there are days when I don’t choose to listen to my inner voice. This happens when my mind overtakes and I am so drawn into a problem that needs solving or influenced by the ideas of others. When I make a decision from this place, it doesn’t take me too long to realise, I should’ve listened to my own inner guidance. I recently had a couple of important decisions to make and I am pleased to say, that my inner wisdom presented me with the best choices again. So, how do you recognise the voice of your inner wisdom? Listed below are a few ways I believe can help.

How do I feel about this?

Ask yourself this simple question: ‘How do I feel about this?’ Then, pay attention to any signals within your physical body. Do you suddenly feel like you have a knot in your stomach or a lump in your throat? Or do you feel excited about what you are asking about?  A couple of months ago I made a YouTube video on this subject you may find useful:

Are you doing this just to please someone?

Are you doing something just to please someone, so they won’t get upset with you and still like you, or do you genuinely want to do what they asking for? When you enquire within, you already know the answer. You feel it within the whole level of your being.

Meditation (sitting in stillness)

Meditation is a wonderful way to align with your inner wisdom. When I have an important decision to make, I know I need to go home to my true self and ask my inner guidance (my soul). I sit in stillness and take a few deep breaths. This allows me to quieten my mind. When I feel calmer, I ask how shall I deal with the situation? The answer may come to me straight away, tomorrow or within a few days. Try it.

Automatic writing

This is another powerful exercise you can try. Get out your diary and a pen and start writing. Write, whatever comes to your mind related to the things you may be confused about. When you read it back, you may find some answers you are looking for.

Value other people’s advice, but don’t get influenced by it too much

Like my dad says: Value other people’s advice but always follow your own inner wisdom. Others can give you a great insight from a different perspective and that is great, but remember, always do what feels right for you.

A thought to keep

“You already know what to do. Trust your inner wisdom, it knows best.”

Take a break, relax & get inspired

My holiday is starting today and I am definitely ready for it. Since the beginning of the year, I’ve been working very hard. The great news is, I can see some amazing results and so happy where is Mystic Butterfly® heading. The hard work is definitely paying off. I will be sharing some exciting news with you within the next couple of months, but now, is time to relax, unwind and spend some time with my family. I can’t think of a better way of spending my Summer holiday than surrounded by my loved ones. I will be taking a couple of weeks off from writing too, so the next email you will get in your inbox from me (if you are a Mystic Butterfly subscriber) will be on 21st August. Until then, I will still be sharing inspiring posts (and a few holiday pictures) throughout my social media accounts.

A quick note for my students: Meditation classes and group coaching classes will resume in September. Please, check out this page for all the dates:

So, now it’s time to unwind and relax

Taking time off is very important, even when you really enjoy the work you do. Every time I take time off and change the scenery from my everyday environment, I get instantly inspired. I keep my notebook handy to write down any ideas, so get ready for lots of inspiring posts coming your way. So, I’m signing off now and will leave you with this powerful quote by Doe Zantamata:

“Taking time to do nothing sometimes often brings everything into perspective” ~Doe Zantamata