When I was younger, I lived in so much worry and fear. I worried about everything. What other people thought of me, whether I said the right thing or whether I presented myself the right way. Other people’s opinions were so important to me that they were controlling my life in a great way.
When we are very young we have a completely different outlook on life. This outlook can be somehow overwhelming. This was certainly the case for me. But, if I ever had the opportunity to talk to my younger self, there are so many things I would tell her. I would give her so much love, support and reassurance that there is nothing to worry about, only things to experience and lessons to learn from.
If you could talk to your younger self, what would you tell him or tell her? What words would you use to encourage them and make them feel better when they feel scared? What would you say to them to calm them down? Please share your thoughts in the comments below. You never know who may read them and they can even save someone’s life.
I believe this is a very important topic to talk about. The younger generation can sometimes feel so overwhelmed about life in general, and can definitely benefit and learn from our mistakes when we take the time to talk about them. Listed below are a few of the things I would definitely say to that scared young girl I used to be if I had the opportunity.
1) Don’t worry what other people think of you
Others are so busy thinking about themselves and not about you. When we are younger, we think the opposite. The most important thing is what you think about you.
2) Be yourself
You are unique. There has never been anybody like you and there is never going to be. Embrace all that is you and celebrate your beautiful individuality.
3) Your past mistakes are powerful lessons
When I used to make mistakes, I would beat myself up for them for ages. Look at your mistakes as powerful lessons which needed to be learnt to help you become the person you want to become.
4) Put yourself first, always
Always follow your dreams. Don’t postpone, don’t procrastinate, don’t get influenced by other’s opinions. When I was younger, I was always searching for romantic love. When I was in a relationship, that other person would become my priority. I would put all my dreams and needs aside, on hold and made them, only them, very special. There was a huge price to pay for that. I was never happy because I stopped focusing on me and my dreams. Later, I realised, I am the most important person in my own life and I will always be. I started putting myself first. This wasn’t selfish, but an act of self-love and respect towards my self. Put yourself first, always.
5) Listen to your intuition
When I was a child, my intuition was very strong and I fully trusted it. As I got older I stopped listening to it and began thinking that what it was telling me was only a coincidence or a random chance. How wrong was I at the time? Always listen to your inner wisdom, it will never fail you.
6) Don’t take life so seriously
When we are young, we take everything so seriously, including the things that don’t really matter. Life doesn’t have to be that serious. The same way seasons of the year change, the seasons of life change too. Go through them gracefully. When something doesn’t work out the way you planned it, trust and know that there is something way better on its way to you.
7) You are good enough, just as you are
You are good enough and you have nothing to prove to anybody. You don’t need to compare yourself to others, dress like others, act like others to be accepted by this society. You are good enough, just as you are. Work on yourself, keep improving, educate yourself, but at the same time know that you are good enough and wonderful as you are.