Always do your best & don’t worry about the rest

I recently came across this great quote: Never stop doing your best just because someone doesn’t give you credit’ ~Unknown It really made me think about the world we currently live in. Many of us seek approval and validation from others. We want to look good in the eyes of others and are working very hard for it. When we get that approval, we feel good and we have a reason to keep going. But sometimes, when we don’t get that approval we get disappointed. Le’ts say you are building a business on the side of your full-time job. You’re working hard, but nobody is giving you any acknowledgement. At first, it doesn’t matter, because you believe in yourself and you are excited about your vision. Six months have passed and you keep going, even though you still don’t see any financial results. People start expressing their opinions and keep wondering why you even bother as you haven’t made any money yet? Despite all, you keep going. Some more time may pass and you, yourself may start questioning whether you should carry on. You’ve reached a crossroads.

What’s next….

Never question your vision. Don’t question it for a second. Keep doing your best and forget about the rest. It doesn’t matter that someone doesn’t give you credit. It doesn’t matter it hasn’t been acknowledged yet or that someone says you can’t succeed. To tell you the truth, the people who say that, are not your kind of people. When something seems impossible to them, doesn’t mean it must be impossible for you too? When you do what you love, the right people will be drawn to you. This may take a little while, but eventually, they will come and they will appreciate your efforts, and they will let you know that they do. Believe in yourself.

Here is one of my personal examples

I love writing. I blog every week and there are people who love what I have to share. But even though they do, I don’t get many likes or comments on these blogs. What I get however, are private messages or emails that the blogs are helping them. I certainly don’t define my work by the ‘likes’ I get on social media. I keep writing because I love it and by doing so, I can serve many people. And the rest? I don’t worry about it anymore. I used to did and it was controlling my life. One day I said to myself: ‘Enough.’ Even though it’s nice to get acknowledged by others, I won’t rely on it and I stopped expecting it. I continue doing what I love and the right kind of people will always find it at the right time. This is just one simple example to illustrate that if you have a passion for something, the noise of the world but also its quietness becomes irrelevant. Carry on doing what you love.

Keep up the great work

So my friends, please don’t give up and don’t worry about receiving any credit from others. Many people are watching, even though they pretend they don’t, trust me. So keep up the great work and one day, we will celebrate all your wonderful creations and we will all be very proud of you. Don’t give up. Your wonderful work is needed in this world.


No, I’m not always positive, inspiring & happy

Many people who don’t really know me, think I’m always about positive vibes, happiness, rainbows and butterflies. Even though I love that idea, life is somehow different in a reality. I have my own struggles, bad days, negative thoughts and upsets. Of course, I wouldn’t share those things on the internet in full details, but what I do instead, is talk about what I’m learning from those experiences so they can inspire and help others. Not everything is as we perceive it, not everyone is who we may think they are.

…and this is one of the reasons not to compare yourself to other people

On the outside, we may think, that others have it ‘all together’ while the truth may lie somewhere else. My own life is an example of that. The last two years have been quite tough for me emotionally, however, there have been fleeting moments of light and happiness that always keep me going. Most people who you follow online may not be exactly as you perceive them. The work colleague who is always smiling may be going through something you know nothing about. Behind those false masks may be a person who is very unhappy, hurt and struggling deeply. The trouble is, we have been taught to be strong, to hide our emotions, without being honest with ourselves and others how we really feel. I’m getting a bit tired of that game. Therefore, I want to share with you more and more of my truth, at least through these blog posts, and by doing so, perhaps give others permission to do the same.

The truth about Jana

Yes, I want to keep inspiring you guys. Yes, I’m excited about so many things in life. And yes, there are great things unfolding in front of me right now, but the truth is: I also feel scared, tired, demotivated, angry, unhappy and unbalanced sometimes. I cry a lot to relieve my emotional pain, but I also cry tears of joy when something works out beautifully for me. The passing of one of my best friends earlier this year really affected me. I miss my friend deeply, but I’m grateful that our paths have crossed and I’m keeping the happy moments we shared in my heart forever. A couple of years ago, two people, I considered great friends and who have been in my life for over a decade betrayed me. But as difficult as this situation was, it made me more grateful for the real friends I have and I can fully rely on. So many things I worked so hard for didn’t work out for me, but I am grateful for the fantastic opportunities these redirections brought into my life.

So, as you can see my friends, life is not always about rainbows, sunshine and butterflies, but doing our best in any given moment despite the challenges we face is what helps us rise again and again.


When you are forced to slow down

I’m writing this post a little ‘last minute’ on Monday afternoon. I wasn’t planning to post a blog this week, because I haven’t been feeling very well since last Thursday, but in the end, decided to say a few words. I’m pleased to say I’m feeling much better today and planning to celebrate Halloween on Wednesday with my sister’s children.

So, what happened…

I came to Slovakia last Sunday, straight after a work trip I took to Los Angeles. When I finally arrived here, I realised I haven’t slept properly for about 38 hours. I knew I needed to finally relax and forget about working altogether. However, I’m the kind of person who is always looking to do something productive and being creative.

For a few days beside enjoying the time with my family, I’ve been fitting in some work until Thursday, when I began feeling a bit tired. By the evening I wasn’t feeling very well at all. The following morning I woke up with a bad headache, blocked sinuses and a sore throat. That headache with the blocked sinuses lasted a few days and I was feeling very weak. I couldn’t even stand on my own two feet. I don’t remember last time I felt this bad. My family has been fantastic, as always, and looked after me very well. Although I am still not 100%, I’m feeling so much better.

I was certainly forced to rest. I slept a lot and have been doing absolutely nothing, which I’m lately not very familiar with. This allowed me to gain the energy I was lacking. Sometimes, we might be forced to slow down by catching a cold or flu, so we finally pay attention to the universal signs to look after ourselves. Another time, something may not work out, because the Universe is trying to protect us from something that is not meant for us.

What did I learn from this experience? To listen to my body when it’s tired and rest more. To listen to my intuition and pay attention to the sings that are always around me. To look after myself more: physically, spiritually, mentally and emotionally.

“In all the chaos and hurry, do not forget to notice the beauty and miracle of this world. Slow down. Notice. Observe. Be aware. Allow presence and awe to come back into your life.” ~Brendon Burchard 


Can’t stop that negative mind chatter? Try this…

We all have that voice in our head which talks to us all day, every day. Sometimes, the voice shares beautiful and inspiring messages, another time, it can bring us down and take us to places we don’t want to go. This voice can convince us that something terrible is going to happen, even when there is no physical evidence of it. This is the voice of fear and worry. The good news is, we can always choose, whether we want to listen to it or not. But how do we do that? I have a few suggestions I believe can help.

Thank you for sharing

When I used to struggle with anxiety, the voice of fear (that negative chatter) was with me almost all the time. Some days it was louder than others. For many years I was trying to push it away and by doing so it became even louder and was making my life very difficult. It was making me upset and exhausted. I was not motivated or excited about life at all at the time. After a while, I decided to take a different approach. Every time I could feel this negative voice lurking in, I started talking back to it. The talk went something like this: There you are again. I’ve been expecting you. I presume you have nothing new to say to me, only the usual I’ve already heard before. So, please say it fast, as I have things to do right now. If you want to stay, stay then, but remember that I make the decisions whether I want to listen to you or not.” This approach helped me enormously. Try it and see how you get on.

Stay centred ~ Stay grounded

What do I mean by this? I mean to be in control. Don’t let that negative chatter in your mind control your life. Every time you worry about something, ask yourself: What evidence do I have this may happen? If you can’t find at least 3 healthy reasons, let it go and re-focus your attention to the present moment. This also means no future-tripping or past-travelling. Your power lies in the present moment, always.

You are the only thinker in your mind

When you are a natural worrier, I know it may not be as easy to let go of that negative chatter. But, by reminding yourself several times a day that you are the only thinker in your mind and you are choosing these thoughts, nobody is choosing them for you, you can make a change. Start small and regain back the power that has always been yours.


When past visits you (yet again)

Last Thursday I woke up at 3 am. I thought, after a few moments, I will fall asleep again, but I didn’t it. My mind was racing and my thoughts were overtaking the peaceful state I was trying so hard to create. After trying to fall asleep for about an hour, I decided to get up. The thoughts I was having in those early hours led me to some dark places of the past, I would rather erase from my life, completely. They seemed so real once again, making me feel uncomfortable. So, as I got up, I went to the kitchen, made myself breakfast and decided to write my thoughts down. I allowed the pen to glide on the page of my diary and let these thoughts and emotions stick to the paper. I started feeling a little relief, but it still wasn’t enough. Later, in the shower, it got bad again. I started thinking about something from even more distant past. I began wondering, why do I have to deal with this today? I have things to do and it seemed like a complete waste of time. I realised it must be happening for a reason. I must admit, at that point, I felt sad, angry and frustrated at the same time. It felt like a dark cloud just formed above my head and followed me around. Analysing why I felt the way I felt led me to a realisation, that I need to start a major clearing in my life.

I began with a space clearing

Cleaning my flat was a good place to start. Throwing away things which were long overdue to go, dusting off the shelves and afterwards lighting candles, and clearing the space using a sage and palo santo offered me peace of mind.

Creating a feeling good state

Clearing the flat definitely lifted off some heavy energies, but I needed to go deeper. I decided to sit in stillness and meditate. Meditation always brings clarity into my life and a fresher perspective. And it did just that. Clearing your mind of unpleasant thoughts can seem like a major task especially when you are feeling down, however, it works when you give it a chance. Begin by lighting a candle, putting on some soothing music and taking a few deep breaths. You can add some visualisation to this by imagining you are walking through a beautiful garden and seeing the most vivid colours, hearing the most beautiful sounds and feeling at peace with yourself and everything that surrounds you. You can go anywhere in your imagination and if you are thinking about beautiful things, it will make you feel great. This helped me enormously and shifted my energy. After this meditation, the unpleasant thoughts about the past didn’t seem so big anymore. I had a completely different perspective and once again looked at those experiences as lessons I learned so much from.

The clearing continues and it goes even deeper

Clearing your past doesn’t only mean clearing old emotions, some of them still unresolved, but to clear some people from your life as well. This may sound harsh to some of you, but the truth is, some people need to go. You might have outgrown certain friendships/relationships and that’s okay. There may be people in your life you only keep in touch because you once had something in common, but it may not be true anymore. There may even be people you feel drained around, so you avoid them, but still call them friends. This is being untrue to yourself. Don’t feel bad or guilty about this. It may be a sign to let them go. 

Letting go gracefully

Letting go doesn’t have to be dramatic or painful. You can let go of people gracefully. I know you care about other people’s feelings, but if this friendship or a relationship is not serving you well anymore, it’s time to let go. Listen to your intuition how to do this. Let go smoothly, steadily and gracefully.

You are in control

Past is not here anymore and there is nothing which can be changed about it, however, your approach towards the past can be changed. You can either let it control your life or you can let it go gracefully, as mentioned above. Choose the latter, reclaim the power that has always been yours, and focus on your life which is happening now.


Persevere & make your dreams come true

Today’s blog post is a little coaching session from me. It’s about persevering and working towards your dreams, even when things get difficult. I strongly believe when something is important to us, we are going to make it happen. What I also believe in, is that when we are working towards our dream, we may occasionally be led to even a better one. I am always open to that possibility because I’ve experienced it.

So you have a dream and you are excited about it, but there may be times, when you may feel de-motivated, discouraged or even want to give up. In those moments is important to remind yourself how far I’ve come already. This can give you the courage to move forward and show you a way to rise above any obstacles along the way.

We all feel discouraged sometimes, we all feel de-motivated, we all get tired. Especially when we have been working towards something for a long time and the whole process may seem to be taking a while. In the beginning, the excitement is always there, but when the first obstacles start arising, we may question whether we should carry on. The secret of many successful people is to persevere. You never know how close you may be to winning? Many dreams are let go of, just before the results are about to show up.

Let go of the control of ‘how and when’ and keep going

I am currently in the process of completing a beautiful project which I’ve been working on for a few years. I will reveal the news in November. But during this process, I often felt discouraged, especially when things were not going according to my plans. Even though there were obstacles, I persevered and with a help of some amazing people who supported me, I am pleased to say we are almost done. When you let go of the control of how and when, and you relax and go with the flow, the way will be shown to you. And keep in mind, that it may not happen the what you expected (it may be even better).

Why did you begin?

I know that you may be tired or even feel that you want to give up. Pause for a moment and think about why you started? What prompted you to begin? Who inspired you? What was the vision? Write it all down. I often find, when I write things down and see them in front of me on a piece of paper, I see the reasons why I’m doing what I’m doing. This helps me see my vision clearly again. It also gives me the courage to persevere.

Sometimes you take 2 steps forward, another time 5 steps back (and that’s okay)

Remember this statement. Sometimes you take 2 steps forward, another time 5 steps back. My flying instructor used to tell me that and it motivated me every time. Even when things got difficult, I took a deep breath and tried again and again. I didn’t give up even though it was hard.

Make yourself proud

Yes, you can make yourself proud. Keep moving forward, keep doing your best in any given moment. You can absolutely make your dreams come true. Hard work, perseverance and a clear vision will get you where you want to go. Believe in yourself.

A thought to keep

“Perseverance, the secret of all triumphs.” ~Victor Hugo 


The power of daily rituals

What does come to your mind when you hear the word ritual? The Oxford English Dictionary describes ritual as follows: religious or solemn ceremony consisting of a series of actions performed according to a prescribed order. In other words, we can look at ritual as something we repeat on a daily basis that has a powerful meaning to us. It can even be a daily prayer or having a meditation practice. I, personally find daily rituals very empowering. Through daily rituals, we are learning a self-discipline. When something is important to us, we just find the time to do it, no negotiations, no excuses. The more we practice, the more second-nature it becomes. It’s like brushing your teeth. Today, I would like to share with you some of my own daily non-negotiables. I hope they’ll inspire you.

Daily meditation

One of my daily rituals is my meditation practice. I meditate every morning and every evening. I always make sure I meditate. For me, meditating is the right way to start and also end my day. I don’t compromise. If I have to be up at 6 am, I make sure I wake up at 05.45 to do my meditation. My meditation practice is important to me and therefore I make sure I stick to it.

Energy field protection

I have always been quite sensitive to other people’s energies and I can easily pick on their thoughts and emotions. Therefore, I make sure I shield my energy field every single day. I do this by adding a little visualisation to my day. For example: I visualise four mirrors around me. One in front of me, one behind me, one on my left and one on my right. These mirrors are not facing me, but they are turned away from me. I trust and know that these mirrors will reflect any negative or disturbing energies sent my way (intentionally or unintentionally). I also trust that when these energies are reflected away from me, they cannot harm any other being. Another protection technique I use is stepping into a golden pyramid, inspired by Anne Jones. Visualise a golden pyramid in front of you. Take a step (either in your visualisation or you can take a physical step), and visualise you are stepping into that pyramid. Now, that you are in the pyramid, trust and know that nothing negative or disturbing can penetrate through this pyramid and you are safe and secure.

Conscious breathing

Several times a day I stop doing what I’m doing and take a few deep breaths. Practising daily conscious breathing creates space within the physical body, so the energy can flow freely. Deep breathing can also help release stress, anxiety and bring more joy and peace to life.

Reading something inspirational every day

Reading at least one page of an inspiring or motivational book can really add to feeling more positive and excited about life in general. I do this every day. It doesn’t take long and it has a lasting positive effect on my life.

Daily PLANK

I am not a very big fan of gyms, but I practice yoga and love ballet dancing. These are keeping me fit and balanced. Even though I don’t go to the gym, every day I do daily plank pose for 4-minutes. I don’t do it all together but in 2- minute intervals. It’s a fantastic ritual I added to my day a few months ago, which is also keeping my arms, abdomen and legs strong and toned.

Do you have any daily rituals?

If you practise any rituals and you would like to share them with us, I invite you to leave them in the comments below this post. By sharing our ideas and tips, we can inspire and help each other. If you don’t practise any rituals yet, I hope this post inspired you.

I will leave you with this powerful quote

“A daily ritual is a way of saying, “I’m voting for myself; I’m taking care of myself.” ~ Mariel Hemingway 


My #1 tip for decision making

Today, I would like to give you my number one tip for decision making. When we are about to make a decision we often ask ourselves: “What do I think about this?” Or we go to other people, such as friends, family members or work-colleagues and ask for their opinions. But what many of us forget, is to enquire within and ask ourselves: “How do I feel about this?” This week, I have a quick video message for you I believe can inspire you. You can watch it at the link below.


Authenticity ~your secret superpower

A few weeks ago I attended a fantastic public speaking course organised by The College of Public Speaking. My mentor, Vince Stevenson, is a wonderful and inspiring teacher. On the course, Vince was talking a lot about authenticity. This is an area I used to struggle with because I thought I was not good enough. Well, to be honest I still struggle with it sometimes, but not as I used to. Becoming more mature and confident in being myself, I made it my mission to teach others about owning their truth. Being your authentic self is one of the most beautiful gifts you can give to yourself and to this world. Unfortunately, many of us often compare ourselves to other people and then we think that we are less than others, or we need change something or do something so we can be accepted by this society. I believed this lie for many years myself until I reached enough bottom to make me realise, I am good enough just the way I am and I matter like everyone else on this planet.

You were born to be YOU

I absolutely love this quote: ‘No one ever made a difference by being like everyone else’ ~P.T. Barnum. You are a unique individual. There has never been anybody like you and there is never going to be. You have so many amazing gifts and qualities that nobody else has. Show them to the world.

You are good enough, just as you are

Know that you are enough, just the way you are. Your authenticity is your superpower. Embrace it.

Focus on you

Focus on yourself and stop comparing yourself to other people. Well, at least try. Focus on what inspires you, focus on what you love, focus on what matters to you. When you do that, you will lose interest in comparing yourself to other people.

” Just be yourself. Let people see the real, imperfect, flawed, quirky, weird, beautiful and magical person that you are.” ~Mandy Hale 


Your Imagination (Vlog)

Dear friends,

Today, I have a question for you: ‘What do you use your imagination for?’ Your imagination is a very powerful tool and you should really start using it to your advantage. This week I made a video for you to talk about your imagination. May it serve you well. As always, if you have any questions or comments, please feel free to email me: jana@mysticbutterfly.co.uk

Love, 

Jana x 

‘Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will take you everywhere’ ~Albert Einstein