Taking advice from people who are not doing what you want to do

Have you ever met someone who has told you that something you are trying to accomplish wouldn’t be possible for you? A person, who would unintentionally or maybe intentionally try to crush your dream before you even begin? It happened to me quite a few times.

One time, in my twenties, when I decided to take the route of becoming a private pilot. I was excited about my dream, so I was telling many people about it and of course, most of them were very encouraging and genuinely happy for me. But one day, I had a conversation with a person who started listing all the reason why I could fail. He said, that it would be too hard, there is so much maths and physics involved, that English is not my first language, so it would be even double-hard, besides I’m going to put myself into to lots of debt because flying is just too expensive.

It turned out later, this individual didn’t even have a pilot’s license himself, yet he was trying to crush my dream before I even began my journey. Since then, I’m really careful who I share my dreams with and take advice from, especially the people who are not doing something I’m striving to do.

You decide what’s possible for you

There are many possibilities for all of us and it is up to us whether we make something happen or not. If you believe in yourself and put the hard work into it, you can make anything happen. If it’s important to you, you will find a way, if not, you will find an excuse. Listen to your own inner wisdom and focus on what you want to do.

Be aware of people who are negative about something you are excited about

These kind of people are incapable of doing something themselves, so they try to push their fear onto you too. If they were willing to change the approach, they could definitely achieve some great things themselves. Unfortunately, they are too focused on the ‘Why they can’t’.

To summarise it, don’t be angry with these people, but rather be compassionate. Always be positive and who knows…maybe your positive approach towards your dream will show them, that they too can accomplish some cool things in their lives just by changing their attitude. Anyhow, taking advice from people who are not doing what you want to do is a big NO, NO! Focus on you, your dreams and most importantly, have fun in this process.

And lastly, besides the hard work and everything else that man listed, I completed my training successfully and became a private pilot 🙂 What a great journey it has been.

Yes, your dreams can come true!

Beautiful girl in jacket standing next to war aircraft. Retro photo.We all have dreams, desires, something we really want to accomplish in our lives. It can be something we have always been dreaming of ever since we were children. Something which makes us very excited every time we think about it, but we never had the courage to do it.

I always dream big, and I believe my dreams can come true no matter how unrealistic they may seem to others. We are all allowed to choose whatever we want to do in this life. After all, we are souls with a free will (when we look at this life from a higher perspective). I am very pleased to say, many of my dreams became reality thank to my strong will, perseverance, hard work and a support from some fantastic people. This is the reason why I chose this topic, and I believe I can give you some useful tips from my own experience how not to give up on your dreams even when you are feeling discouraged, you’ve lost your confidence and everybody is telling you your dreams are just too big for you.

To accomplish something great in your life is not an easy journey. I can talk a lot about my own challenges. For example when I was learning to fly. Sometimes I took three steps forward, another time five steps back. Even though I wanted to become a private pilot so much, I sometimes created many excuses when things got difficult (as many of us do) e.g. this is so hard, I can’t see myself flying solo, English isn’t my first language, some of the flying maneuverers are just too scary to face, I don’t like maths and physics, and many other excuses of that kind. Luckily, amongst all those excuses, I always believed in myself and I never gave up. I didn’t hang around in this state of mind for too long. Instead, I focused on what I had to do in the moment and I learned to motivate myself on a daily basis. This is what helped me moving towards my dream even when fears, excuses and obstacles crossed my path. And so can you…no matter how difficult or “unreal” your dream may seem. If it’s important to you, you will always find a way. If not, you will find an excuse. You are capable of achieving your dream if you are willing to do the hard work, focus, persevere, step out of your comfort zone and face your fears. No matter how old you are or how long it can take. Are you ready?

I have a list of tips, which can help you on your own exciting journey towards your dreams. Take whatever feels right for you and discard what doesn’t. This is your journey and only you decide what you want to do with it.


This is a first tip and it is crucial. You have to believe in yourself to make your dream come true. Who is going to believe in you, if you don’t believe in yourself? Theodore Roosevelt said: “Believe in yourself and you are halfway there!” I can’t agree more.


To accomplish anything in your life, you always have to take action and you have to be disciplined. Start doing something right now, which will get you closer to your dream (do your research, read a book on your chosen subject, take a weekend course which will give you more information about what you want to accomplish, talk to people who have done it and are successful in what you want to do). Then, the hard work starts. Do something every single day that will get you even closer to your dream, even if it’s only for 15 minutes. Study hard and make yourself proud. You can do anything you set your mind to. If it’s important to you, you will make it happen. Have discipline and keep going. I would also like to add visualisation exercise to this process. I am a great believer in the effectiveness of visualisation. I always use this powerful tool and it works. When you visualise, you can easily attract what you want into your life. If you have ever daydreamed, I am sure you know exactly what I mean. Visualise and feel the feelings of how you would like to feel once your dream is manifested (fly that plane, sing on that stage, run the marathon etc.). Go as far as possible in your visualisation and feel those good feelings now. Visualise people congratulating you on your big success and feel proud of yourself now. This is a fantastic tool and I strongly advice you to add it to your daily routine when taking action.


When you decide to do something and it’s something “out of ordinary”, it may scare some people around you. There will be people who will tell you that your dream is just too big for you, you don’t have the grades to start that course, you are just not strong enough, wise enough, pretty enough to do that. My advice? Don’t listen to those people. The reason they tell you those things, it’s because they think, they can’t do it. But that’s their reality, not yours. Sometimes, they may get worried and want to protect you from getting disappointed. That’s fine too. Always be polite and say: “Thank you for your concern, but I believe in myself and I am willing to try and see if I can do this. It may not be easy, but I am up for the challenge!” Surround yourself with positive people who believe in you. They will always support you and encourage you on your journey.


Focus is so important in the process of working towards your dream. You’ve made an important decision what you want to do. Now, you have the opportunity to manifest this dream into your reality. Don’t let anything or anyone distract you. Always remember you are more than capable of accomplishing whatever you have decided to do. From a spiritual perspective there is a divine reason why this dream (this idea) came to you. Follow it! I am not saying it’s going to be easy, I am saying, it’s going to be worth it! Obstacles always come our way, but they are teaching us some important lessons. Trust and know no matter how long it takes: You can do it!

Good luck my friends and remember YOU CAN DO ANYTHING YOU SET YOUR MIND TO!

If you have any further questions or comments, please send them to: jana@mysticbutterfly.co.uk and I will be happy to answer them.