Five ways to let go of negative thoughts

We all fall into a trap of negative thinking once in a while. Negative thinking makes us feel sad and worried. It often leads to overthinking and creating some crazy scenarios in our minds. Some time ago, I wrote a blog about the power of our minds. I talked about how our thoughts and emotions influence our reality. Most of the thoughts we are thinking today are repetitious. The thoughts we were thinking yesterday, we often carry with us to today. So, there is not a surprise, you may call yourself (or others will do) a negative thinker, if you are constantly dwelling on the same negative frequency. The good news is, there are many fantastic techniques we can use to let go of negative thoughts and adopt a new, healthy thinking patterns. I would like to share with you a five helpful ways, which can help you to let go of negative thoughts. I hope they will inspire you.

1. Rising above negativity

You are the only one choosing your thoughts, so begin to choose the good ones. It can sound easier said than done, but stay with me. The change always begins with changing your mindset. I believe  that one positive thought can cancel even hundred of negative thoughts. Focusing your attention on what you want and how you want to feel, instead of placing it onto what you don’t want to experience, will make a magical shift in your thinking. Your thoughts, and also the words you speak out loud, are very powerful. They effect your subconscious. Every time a negative thought arises, replace it with the positive thought. This is a quick and effective way to begin training your mind to think in a more positive way.

2. Positive affirmations

I often talk about positive affirmations, because they work (when you use them). Using positive affirmations can re-train your mind. There are three important keys to using positive affirmations. Affirmations need to be positive, personal and in a present tenseI call them a 3 P’s. For example: “I am feeling happy and excited about my life.” It is positive, it is personal and it is in a present tense. Affirmations can help you shift your perception of life. When you catch yourself wandering to a negative thinking pattern, try to think the exact opposite, by creating a positive affirmation. For example: If you worry about a meeting at work, you can use this powerful affirmation: “I am only attracting positive people and positive situations into my life. Everything is working out for me.” Create your own affirmations and use them regularly, not only when you feel stressed, negative or upset. I also recommend using positive affirmation first thing in the morning upon waking up. So, before checking your emails and getting on with your daily tasks, take a few deep breaths and repeat some positive affirmations to start your day right. Positive affirmations may feel like a lie to you when you start using them, but after a while, you will be amazed how beneficial they actually are. Begin today.

3. Erasing negative thoughts

One of my favourite techniques is visualising writing my negative thoughts on an imaginary blackboard. Once they are written down, I imagine, I am erasing them. As they are being erased, I feel they are also being released from my life. The next powerful technique is seeing the negative thoughts on a big screen (e.g. a big TV or a cinema screen ). As you are looking at the words on this screen, visualise, they are shrinking, getting smaller and smaller, until they completely disappear. Try these techniques and see if they work for you.

4. Re-evalute your relationships

Do you spend most of your time around negative people? No wonder you are feeling negative or de-motivated. The people we spend the most time with is exactly what we become. People who are constantly complaining, blaming others, are not a very good company to be around. Re-evaluating your relationships doesn’t mean you are blaming them. It means you are noticing what is going on around you, and how this is effecting your life and the way you feel. It also doesn’t mean to cut these people off from your life. Maybe you can talk to them and try to help them, or if that doesn’t help, choose how much time you actually want to invest in these relationships. If the negative people are a members of your family, remember that you cannot change anybody, unless they want to change. What you can do, is be an example of your own beautiful (positive) self. After a while, they may start mirroring your own positive energy.

 5. Release and surrender

Here is a spiritual tip for you. Release and surrender the negative thoughts to the care of the Universe. We often try to control everything that happens to us. We want everything to go our way, but we forget, that everything that happens to us, is serving our highest good. There is always a lesson we are learning. When you are caught up in a spiral of negative thinking and nothing else works to lift yourself up, release and surrender your negative thoughts. Say to the Universe: “I don’t know what is going on, but I am done with feeling this way. I am willing to surrender all these thoughts to you, Universe. Please, help me to see the light in my life, and help me to shift my perception.” Then, release it. Trust and know, the higher power of the Universe is taking care of the rest. Remember to think positive and positive things will happen.

A thought to keep!

“One small positive thought in the morning can change your entire day.” 


A letter to the people that have hurt me

Many things happen throughout our lives. Good, bad, exciting or challenging. People come to our lives, then they leave. Sometimes, even without any explanation. I have experienced it many times in my own life. Many people hurt me, turned their backs to me, often when I needed them most. I could write pages and pages about my past hurts, disappointments and sadness. Well, we all could. But here, at Mystic Butterfly, we focus on how to make our journey here on the Earth happy and fulfilling one. We focus on how to see the light in the dark moments of life, instead of focusing on what is not currently working. This also applies to the past hurts and disappointments. It is important to understand, that some people come to our lives for a lifetime, others have shorter roles to play. But every single one of them can be our teacher, if we choose to see them that way.

I believe writing a letter to the people that have hurt us in the past can be a very liberating experience. This letter is not for them, but it is only for yourself. Perhaps, to get a closure you never had, to express the feelings you never had the chance to express. To say the things you were too afraid to say out loud. In this blog I am sharing a personal letter addressed to the people that have hurt me. I have decided to share it publicly to inspire you. I am not suggesting you should share your letter publicly too. The letter is for you and your own healing journey. Make your letter as specific and personal as possible in your own unique way. The letter I am sharing doesn’t contain anything too specific or negative, but it focuses on the lessons, and the good things which came out of my disappointments. Let my letter be a suggestion how to start liberating yourself from the past wounds and the history, which is not here anymore. They are only holding you back from living the life that you desire. Only remember the lessons and the happy memories. Release the ex-boyriends/girlfriends, ex-friends, former employers or any random strangers who treated you wrongly or unfairly.  I believe everything in life is a choice. Let’s make a decision right now to step out of the victim zone and take a full responsibility for our lives and our choices. Worrying and replaying hurtful old memories in your mind will only keep you stuck in past forever. You deserve an inner peace and to release the difficult past for good. Here is my letter…

Dear ex-boyfriends, former friends and everyone that have hurt me,

“Thank you for all the lessons I had a chance to learn from you. I understand, that the reason we have been part of each other’s journey, is because at the time our energies matched. We were on the same ‘wave length’. After a while gaining more life experiences, we stopped ‘vibrating’ on the same frequency and we had to go our separate ways. Unfortunately, the ending of our journey together didn’t end ideally. I know our friendships and relationships (romantic, work etc.) have served their purpose, and now it’s time to move on to something else, something new. It’s time to let go and start exploring our lives in a different way.

I want you to know, that I take full responsibility for everything that is happening in my life, and I don’t blame you for the things that I might have in the past. Thank you for the lessons, thank you for the experiences, even though some of them have been very painful. I believe I had to go through them, but you had to go through them too. Let’s make a decision today, to ‘cut the cords’, which have been holding us back. Let’s release the tension, the blocks and the history between us, and fully focus on the beautiful future that awaits us. Life is too short to be unhappy and to hold on to the old resentments and unpleasant memories. What is the point even thinking about them anyway? They only make us feel sad once again, so why invest our precious time there. It’s a waste of our beautiful time here on Earth. We can invest this time to something exciting, more meaningful and beautiful.  

If you have recognised yourself in this letter, please know that I have forgiven you or I am in the process of doing so. When I look at us both from a higher perspective, and see us as a beautiful universal beings of light, I completely understand why we had to go through this. You and I had to go through these lessons to understand something important, something which may be revealed to us later in life. These lessons are needed for our personal and spiritual growth. I know they have caused some hurt and disappointments to us both, but that time is gone now. We are always learning and always growing and there is no point looking back anymore. 

So, have a beautiful life dear soul. Gain as much great experiences as you possibly can, remember that we all came here from the same source, which is pure love and light. Therefore I will say to you, that I love you and I wish you only the best on your own unique journey!”  

With love, 

Jana x 

A thought to keep

“Nobody comes to our life as a mistake. Everything is happening for our highest good, and there is a universal message in every relationship we encounter. Learn the lessons and enjoy this beautiful journey called life.”

~Jana Prackova