Let go of control

Last week, my boyfriend and I were visiting my family in Slovakia. During our visit, we happened to play a lot of table tennis. I didn’t know much about table tennis before and only tried to play it a couple of times before. This time, I’ve decided to learn more about the game.

At first, I felt under pressure and a bit intimidated every time I played. But after a few days, I discovered something that astounded me. The more I played, the more relaxed I became, whether I won or lost. I don’t remember the last time I felt this calm while playing a game. Ever since I can remember, I’ve always been quite competitive in any sport or game. I’ve realised that being calm and not having a controlling attitude, allowed me to fully enjoy the game and also do well in it.

The point of this post is not to teach you about table tennis, but about letting go of expectations and relaxing more into life. When we stop obsessing about something, whether that’s an outcome or wanting things to go a certain way, we become calmer and at peace with ourselves and the world around us. This leads to no expectations and a more joyful way of being. Expectations often lead to disappointments. Going with the flow, on the contrary, is what releases the pressure and allows things to unfold naturally. It makes the whole life experience more interesting and way more meaningful.
Nobody likes controlling energy. Nobody likes controlling people with attitude, obsessing about every single detail or outcome in their life. Nobody likes needy energy and annoying people who put pressure on others. We can all easily feel this kind of energy, and naturally, want to get away from it ASAP.
So, try to relax more into life, even though it may be hard at times. Remember the above example in times when you are trying to control something or someone, and instead of controlling, take a few deep breaths, count down from ten to one, and ask yourself, whether you want to waste your precious energy by being controlling or you want to feel more at peace about it? Remember, that we can’t get too far by having a controlling attitude, however, by approaching life in a calmer manner will bring ourselves more joyful experiences.

You are far too unique to be comparing yourself to others

In these times of digital age, we often think, how wonderful other people’s lives are when we look on social media. We see photos of luxurious holidays, flawless selfies of young women with perfect hair. We see inspiring men and women posting fitness videos and pictures in their workout gear and drinking green juices every morning to keep them looking young, healthy and beautiful.

Don’t get me wrong. I love social media and the age we live in. I often get inspired by other people’s sharings and it is through social media I’ve connected with so many incredible people around the entire world.

But being surrounded by all these amazing and flawless beings who are showing us their incredible lives, can make some of us wondering: Where’s my perfect body? Where is my beautiful skin? Where’s my money for all these dream holidays and helicopter rides?’ We begin to compare ourselves to these people and then we feel bad. The truth is, even their reality may not be the way they are presenting it on their social media accounts.

There are not many people who would talk about their struggles online, that they had a bad day or they’ve put on so much weight on in the last couple of months. Instead, people talk about their highlights, which is understandable. Who knows, they may be going through something difficult, we know nothing about, but would not share it publicly. Instead, they lift themselves up by posting something that helps them stay on a positive frequency. Of course, there are also people who like to show off to make others believe how incredible their lives are. But there are also so many genuine people who are just simply excited to share their happiness with others.

I recently read an article about a young model who would post a photo of herself on social media every single day. In that article, she described the whole experience as a rather daunting process. It would take her ages to get ready, take a selfie, airbrushing it and writing a catchy caption to ensure she gets many likes and followers. This always left her feeling exhausted and unfulfilled until she has changed her attitude towards it and started using social media differently.

I must admit, I also airbrushed some of my photos before. I’m still very particular what I post and how I present myself on the internet. But in the last couple of years, I am learning to be more raw and real, as well in photos, so in my articles. Since then, I’ve become to feel more at ease. When you are real, people can relate to you more. They don’t feel intimidated by you or feel bad that they don’t have it all figured out. Then, the comparison becomes irrelevant.

So my friends, let’s be more true to ourselves. Let’s stop comparing ourselves to all these ‘perfect’ people online. We are far too unique to be comparing ourselves to others. Let’s be more loving towards our beautiful selves and let’s stop putting so much pressure on them. Let’s be more authentic and show the world that it’s okay to be that way.

Dealing with difficult people

One of my students recently told me that he has been dealing with a difficult colleague at work. This colleague occasionally picks on him, points things out to him and is being generally unpleasant. When I learned about this, I could immediately relate to his situation. Years and years of bullying at school and by the kids in the village I grew up made me a little qualified to give advice in this area.

I believe when someone is unpleasant to us or picks on us, has nothing to do with us, but everything to do with them. Bullies, whether we encounter them at work, school or on social media are only insecure individuals. They are so insecure that they need to pick on others, whom they consider weaker, to feel powerful and in control. The truth is, they are the weak ones because all they are doing is seeking attention and trying to be seen while making someone else’s life difficult. They often want us to fight back so they can bring us down even more. This is not how we should approach them.

Staying true to ourselves while dealing with someone difficult means standing in our power. Staying true to ourselves means not lowering ourselves to their standard. That’s what they want. Ignoring the person’s unnecessary comments where possible, minding our own business and not engaging in a conversation with them unless we have to is important. Someone like that doesn’t even deserve our response.

These days we can also encounter difficult people or bullies on social media. The best way when someone makes an unpleasant comment to your account or is rude is to ignore it or immediately block them off.  These kinds of individuals don’t deserve your precious time and energy. What have they done for you, except making you feel uncomfortable? Block them!

When things get out of control, it is equally important not to suffer in silence. I was glad my student approach me and shared with me his concerns. I advised him, that if it gets worse, to definitely talk to his manager and raise his concerns. We spend so much of our time at work and if someone makes us feel uncomfortable there this creates lots of unnecessary stress and anxiety which we can be without. I also told him if this guy asks him why is he ignoring him to simply say: ‘Can I be honest with you? You are making me feel uncomfortable. Unless you have something important to say to me, which is work-related, please don’t say anything at all.’  

The truth is, we are not going to get on with everybody in life and we shouldn’t even try. When I used to be bullied at school, I was trying to befriend these people and do things for them, just to create peace. It was 100% wrong and being untrue to myself. Well, I didn’t know any better, being only an innocent and a scared child. Remember, whoever has brought any kind of pain or discomfort into your life doesn’t deserve a place in your life.

Rising above hurtful comments

A few weeks ago, my boyfriend told me that one of his regular customers asked him how he was doing. He replied: Great! I’ve just come back from a lovely holiday with my girlfriend and her family.” His customer replied: Are you still with her?” My boyfriend said: “Of course.” The man responded: Never trust an Eastern European. All they want is your money.” My boyfriend, utterly in shock, responded: Well, that’s what you think, and you don’t know my girlfriend and who she is. She is an amazing person who always helps others, never uses anyone, is a giver, educated and well-accomplished young woman. One of the most generous and nicest people I’ve ever known.”  The man said, none of that means anything, because she is an Eastern European. William, my boyfriend, was very disappointed because he has known this man for some time, liked him and would never expect him to say anything like that. At that point, he changed his mind about him completely. The wife of this man, who was with him, looked embarrassed and in shock too.

My reaction:

When I learned what this man has said, I got upset. He never even met me, and unfortunately, had some ideas in his mind that prompted him to say these hurtful things, most of all, making him look silly in front of my boyfriend. Because I was born in Slovakia doesn’t mean that I cannot be trusted or would take advantage of anyone?  It made me wonder where and how do people come up with these kinds of ideas? Why we, as humanity, judge others based on their nationality, religion or skin colour? I happened to be born in Slovakia. Does this mean I should be put into a certain category? On the other hand, when somebody happens to be born in some so-called, well-developed country, is that going to make them better than others? None of it makes sense. People often don’t realise how their unwise comments can crush someone’s confidence and make them feel small, especially someone who already have low self-esteem and little confidence. I must admit, this unpleasant comment upset me, but luckily I don’t believe in separation, so I managed to get over it quite quickly. My boyfriend wasn’t sure whether to tell me about it at first, but because we are both very honest with each other, he decided to share it with me. I’m pleased he did because I always learn so much from these examples and can help others through them.

The truth is:

Your nationality, religion, skin colour, job title and whatever label the world has placed on you does not define you. Because, for example,  you were happened to be born in one part of the world, that is not considered a great empire or something amazing, does not make you feel less than anybody else. These lies need to be finally dissolved because they are poisoning the entire world. Who came up with them in the first place? Is it people who drew lines on the map and created borders? Is it people who created different religions? Is it people who said that people with different skin colour are less than others? Is it people who said that someone is not good enough because their parents are labour workers and others are successful entrepreneurs? We need to let go of these silly lies once and for all and start creating a world that is happy and comfortable for everyone. The planet belongs to all of us, despite where we came from and we should all get the opportunity to experience it fully.

Yes, it makes me frustrated and fearful to write about this. But at the same time, it also makes me feel strong about my opinions and the truth I’m ready to fully step into and share with you. The world needs to finally wake up. We need to treat each person as an individual, as a fellow human being, an occupant of this earth, a citizen of the universe. That’s who we really are. Let’s look beyond the labels and lies like this and rise above them. Let’s start looking at them as something that once existed and was so pathetic to even talk about. Let’s be more kind to each other. Let’s make this experience on the earth happy and fulfilling one to help reach a higher consciousness of this planet and in the entire universe.

So what can we do today to have more unity consciousness rather than living in separation? Is there something we can do to become wiser and live at peace with each other rather than believing the lies the world has placed upon us? How can we educate the unaware, like the man who has put me into a category and made some unpleasant comments about me, before he has even met me? There are a few things we can do.

Be an example

Becoming an example to others and living our truth can be a huge step. We don’t have to preach anything to anyone, but by simply being kind and compassionate towards each other, we can inspire other people to do the same.

If your journey is the difficult one, you’ve been given an opportunity

If you happened to be born in a country that is not considered the ‘hot spot’ or something interesting to others, you have a great opportunity to take this to your advantage. You have an opportunity to rise above the label you’ve been given and show others how proud you are of the place you have been born to. Show the world that people from this country are equal to the rest.  Don’t be ashamed of your background, of your story and prove all these lies wrong. Educate others and let them know, not in a pushy way, that you, like everybody else, deserve the same amount of respect and affection and you shouldn’t be looked down on. You have the same rights, like everyone else and you are worthy because you were born. If you feel unworthy or less than, put this out of your mind right now. I know it can be difficult, especially if you are a ‘foreigner’ living in another country, I completely get it, because I’ve been facing this my whole adult life and it’s not always easy. We meet all sorts of people and not all of them are welcoming. But remember, you are the citizen of this world and you have the same rights, like everyone else. You should be the one to promote this truth and let others know that it is time to finally look beyond the old fashioned labels.

You are enough!

You are good enough as anybody else. No one should be putting you down and make you feel inferior. You are also powerful to embrace and rise above any challenge you face. So, if you have ever felt unworthy and experienced nasty or unfair comments from people like the one I described at the beginning of this post, please know that you are not alone. At the same time, please know that if the person who said something like that was a happy person, grounded and loving person, they wouldn’t have said it. They would mind their own business and making such comments would feel embarrassing to them and it would be proof that they are the ones who really need to wake up and educate themselves. Look at this post as an invitation to your greatness. Look at is as a new opportunity to hold your head up high, to become stronger and be there for others who may be facing something similar.

Rant over 🙂

When things go wrong & after all, none of it is a big deal

Just over a week ago, I returned from a holiday in beautiful Croatia. Although the holiday was wonderful and I had a lovely time with my boyfriend and my family, quite a few things have gone wrong which made my energy scattered all over the place, left me feeling edgy and prevented me from fully relaxing and enjoying my time off. Just want to say at the beginning, that it is not a point of this post to moan- far from it.

Please, hear me out…

So, since we arrived in Croatia, I had many things on my mind, most I had no control over. I found it difficult to relax. To make matters worse, in the middle of our trip, my neighbour had sent me a text, that she is having a leak down her wall and it seems to be coming from my flat. This really upset me, because there was nothing I could do, being so far away. I could only call a few people to deal with it on my behalf. I later found out, it had nothing to do with me, as I always triple check everything is switched off before I leave home.

Another inconvenience came out of upgrading my mobile phone (online), just a few days before our trip. I didn’t give any of this a second thought and assumed that all will work out fine. It turned out later, that the whole process wasn’t as smooth as I thought it would be. I received my new phone a couple of days before the trip, but without my original number being transferred to it. My network provider said, the number will work within a couple of days, but sadly it didn’t. I was on the phone to my network provider daily, for the first few days of my holiday, without any success. All of it was big chaos, and of course, dealing with the leak situation and having two different phone numbers didn’t help either. Luckily for an iMessage being connected to my original number and my email address, I didn’t miss any important messages. But then, something happened which really struck me.

Just a few days before leaving Croatia, I learned that a girl, I’ve been following on social media for years had lost her life in a tragic accident. I didn’t know her personally, just through the internet, but felt really connected to her in many ways. She was a beacon of light in this world and a beautiful person inside-out. At that point, I’ve had enough. I broke down and gave up. Despite all the scenarios listed above, the magnitude of this situation put all of them aside. They were so insignificant, just general inconveniences. I felt sad, powerless, confused, upset, heartbroken and angry. All of these situations were so unimportant, in comparison to what happened to this beautiful young woman who was only 35.

The lesson from this is to stop taking the little inconveniences so seriously. I know they can be annoying, but after all, they are not a big deal and can be somehow resolved. Let’s be grateful for every single day in our lives and for all the amazing people in it. Let’s tell them daily how much we love them and appreciate them. Let’s be more loving and compassionate towards each other, even towards the people we don’t find so easy to connect with. After all, they are also human beings, sometimes confused and scared the same way as we are. Let’s stop making such a big deal of things that don’t really matter and take them more lightly. Let’s invest our precious energy to that which matters the most.

Tired of getting other people’s approval

We all want to be liked and accepted. We all want an occasional acknowledgement that what we are doing is right and we are doing it well. With social media being a big part of our lives these days, some of us measure our worth by the ‘Likes’ and comments we get on these platforms.
I must admit, I sometimes too, find myself checking the ‘Likes’ and comments, to see how are people responding to my sharings.
And here is something very interesting I’ve noticed recently: When I post something very positive, not many people actually respond to it and I can sense they don’t really like the positivity, as strange as this may sound (by like, I don’t only mean pressing the ‘Like’ button). I often sense the energy of resentment towards the positive posts. But that’s okay.
I’m not upset about this, because, I don’t want people ‘liking’ something just for the sake of liking it. And none of this really matters anyway. What I’m referring to is that I feel people would rather criticize others (whether that’s in their mind or publicly) than cheering them up when they are doing well. People are more comfortable in their unhappiness because it’s familiar. Seeing a positive post may actually trigger something within them they are not ready to face.

No, I’m not always positive and inspiring. Who is?

I’m not always positive, but as I’m becoming more and more honest with myself and letting go many old resentments and grudges, I am able to find beauty in others and the jealousy and inferiority are slowly fading away. I’m not going to lie, I used to be quite depressed, for many years I suffered from severe anxiety, I lived in so much fear and this was making me feel miserable, jealous and sometimes even unpleasant to others. And the truth is, I still get triggered by some people. Who doesn’t? But there is a big difference in my life now. I love seeing others succeeding. I love seeing others happy and positive. They are a reflection of my own successful, happy and positive self. When it comes to social media, I deliberately search for positive messages, because they make me feel good, and of course, when I get inspired by something, I want to share it with others too. It’s uplifting, inspiring and can help change someone’s day, even their life. That’s my reason for sharing positive messages around the Cyber-Space. 

Forget about the ‘Likes’ it’s about doing what you love

Your ‘Likes’ on social media do not define you. Focus on you, your life, your loved ones, your priorities. Be yourself, and if you want to post ten times a day on Facebook or Instagram, do so. If someone doesn’t like it, they have a choice of unfriending you or unfollowing you, and this has nothing to do with you. Do what resonates with you and what brings the most joy to your soul. You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone, you don’t have to justify anything to anyone. Just be yourself, make mistakes and enjoy the beauty of this life. This is your journey and only you decide what you want to do with it.

I will leave you with this inspiring quote today:

“Stop looking outside for scraps of pleasure and fulfilment, for validation, security, or love -you have a treasure within that is infinitely greater than anything the world can offer.” ~Eckhart Tolle 

Releasing Fear Meditation

This week, I’m excited to share with you my latest meditation. Many of us live in so much fear and scarcity. My own life used to be run by fear and insecurity. I didn’t trust the processes of life to take care of me and I was constantly feeling edgy and uncomfortable. Daily meditation and reconnection with my soul changed things enormously. Check out the meditation below and start releasing fear and everything that is no longer serving you and you are ready to let go of.

Releasing Fear Meditation

Patience, please

Couple of weeks ago, I found myself rushing around my local supermarket. It was a murky day outside and quite cold. I was a bit tired and agitated. I wanted to get my shopping done as quickly as possible and get home. On top of that, so it seemed, everybody decided to be in my way. When I was at the fruit section, it was crowded with people. When I went to pick up my tea, there was a woman, who was indecisive about her tea choice, taking over the entire section. It annoyed me. By then, I began feeling frustrated, exhausted and somehow trapped. Why is everybody in my way today? …I asked myself. Then, I suddenly realised, what I was actually doing. I was attacking innocent people in my mind and making myself feel bad at the same time. I acknowledged my own impatience. I had to take a different approach. I’ve decided to step aside for a couple of minutes and take a few, deep breaths. Deep breathing always centres me back in the moment and makes me realise what really matters. After couple of minutes, everything rearranged and I felt so much better. I reminded myself a beautiful quote by Saint Francis de Sales: ‘Have patience with all things, but, first of all with yourself. I was able to finish my shopping, get home and finally relax on the sofa with a cup of nice tea. Listed bellow, are some ideas I would like to share with you about patience. May they inspire you.

Conscious breathing

When I was stressing out in the supermarket, the breath was my saviour. It centred me back in the moment and made me realise what I was actually doing to myself. Whenever you find yourself being impatient, take a few deep breaths. It will centre you back in the moment and will certainly make you feel better.

Daily moments of stillness

Meditation or moments of stillness on a daily basis, can help us become more calm and patient with ourselves and others. Of course, we are all humans and we all detour into the places we often don’t want to go. My suggestion? Find some quiet moments for yourself every day. When you do, you will create a healthy habit, which will serve you in a great way.

Great things take time

We can often become impatient with ourselves while learning new things. We compare ourselves to others and don’t really acknowledge that everyone is on a different path, has a different learning style and speed. It does not matter, if someone does something quicker than you do. Remember that everything takes time. Be patient with your beautiful self. You are doing the best you can. Honour yourself, praise yourself and be patient. Great things do take time.

Patience with other people = Compassion

As I have mentioned at the beginning, I found myself selfish and impatient with all those people, who were probably (without realising) doing the same to myself. We all wanted to get our shopping done and get home. In the moments like these, take a step back and realise, what you are actually doing. You don’t know the other people, their problems or daily challenges. Let’s be more compassionate towards each other, and this will bring more light into our lives and the lives of others.

Patience is a great teacher

Patience is teaching you calmness, letting go and living in the present moment. Every time you find yourself in a situation when you are feeling impatient, ask yourself: What is this situation trying to teach me? Really listen for an answer. It may come to you instantly or a bit later.

Going with the flow

One of the best advises I have ever been given is to go with the flow. Nothing is in a complete control and everything takes time. Life is full of distractions, inconveniences and disturbances. But it is also full of beauty, amazing people, exciting adventures, love and kindness. Choose to go with the flow, and whatever you are facing right now, deal with it as it comes, in the best and most loving way as you possibly can. By going with the flow, you will release the control and become the best version of yourself possible.

‘Patience is a form of wisdom. It demonstrates that we understand the fact that sometimes things must unfold in their own time’

~ Jon Kabat Zinn 

7 Books that changed my life

Books are a pure magic. When we read, we not only escape this reality for a little while (which some people like to do), but most importantly, they educate us. Reading is one of my favourite activities. Whether it’s a good fiction, a self-help or any book about the mysteries of our Universe, I can get lost in it very easily. In this blog, I would like to share with you some of my favourite books, which changed my life in many ways. If any of them speak to you, definitely check it out. Dive deep into that book, and see if the magic that occurred for me happens for you too.

1. You can heal your life ~Louise Hay

This has to be a number one for me. I have learned so much from Louise Hay. She is one of my favourite teachers. You can heal your life is a fantastic book, and its message is very simple: If we love ourselves and think positively, our life can change in a miraculous way. In this book, Louise shares how our thoughts and beliefs create our reality. You can heal your life has sold millions of copies around the world. I always recommend it and gift it to my friends and family. In my opinion, it’s a must read. If you are serious about creating the life you desire, this book is for you.

2. Heal yourself ~Anne Jones

Another great book, which I would recommend to everybody. Anne is an amazing and experienced healer. In this book, she shares some fantastic ideas, how to look after our mind, body and soul on a deeper level. Heal Yourself  is filled with many exercises and also unique symbols, anybody can use and apply to their daily life. If you are thinking to take your spiritual practice to the next level, read this incredible book. It won’t let you down.

3. Embraced by the light ~Betty J. Eadie

In this book, Betty talks about her near-death experience, which changed her life forever. This books is very inspiring and beautifully written. It gives people the hope and the explanation of the unknown that is beyond the veil (in the spirit world). Her experiences, described in the book, make so much sense, and it personally gave me a glimpse of familiarity which I couldn’t understand. I remember when I started reading it, I couldn’t put it down.

4. Miracles Now ~ Gabrielle Bernstein

Gabby is also one of my amazing teachers. I first met her in London, when I began transforming my life and finally ended my never-ending battle with anxiety. She is an author of many great books, but one of my favourites is Miracles Now. This book is easy to read and offers 108 amazing tools anybody can practise. You can open it at any page (the same way you would open a tarot card deck), and what you need to know will be presented to you. The exercises in this book can help you shift your perception to a miracle mindset.

5. Opening to channel ~ Sanaya Roman & Duane Packer

This book has taught me how to connect with my spirit guides and higher self on a deeper level. It also taught me how to trust my intuition more. It is a step-by-step guide to the art of channeling, if this is something you are interested in. It is filled with great meditations and exercises, and it will show you that channeling is a skill that can be learned.

6. Feel the fear and do it anyway ~Susan Jeffers

This brilliant book helped me enormously, when I was dealing with an anxiety attacks and fear in my early twenties. Susan explains that the only way to overcome fear is to face it. One of my favourites affirmations from this book which I use to this day is this: ‘I am powerful and I am loving and I have nothing to fear.’ It changed my life forever. Thank you Susan for writing this incredible book.

7. When ghosts speak ~Mary Ann Winskowski

Last, but definitely not least is When ghosts speak. What an amazing book this is. I must admit, I am a bit of a ghost geek. I’ve always been. Anything paranormal intrigued me ever since I was a little girl. I have been having some unexplainable and mystical experiences from a very young age, which I didn’t understand at the time, and only realised later in life what they actually are. This book talks about what happens, when souls of the deceased refuse to cross over to the the light (to the other side), and become earth-bound. It explains a lot about life and death. If you have ever experienced any unexplainable presence around you, you may find some answers for yourself by reading this book. There is nothing to be scared of. Mary Ann has done a brilliant job explaining the unknown to us in the best way possible. In my opinion- A must read. 

‘ Books are a uniquely portable magic’ ~ Stephen King 

Dealing with regrets

We all have some regrets in life. We all would like to change certain things or rewind back to the past and erase them completely. Do I have regrets? Of course. There are many things I would have done differently. There are many examples in my own life where if I could, I would trust my inner knowing more and certain people less. Many people hurt me in life, but I must admit, I also hurt some people with what I said or done. Well, we are all guilty of something. But this is all over and done with now. I want to focus on the good, only remember the valuable lessons and enjoy my life to the fullest. I realised, regretting something is only going to keep me stuck in the past. This way I am unnecessarily re-living some difficult past experiences, and feeling the unpleasant emotions all over again unintentionally. What a waste of our precious energy and this beautiful life that is? But it doesn’t have to be that way. I am excited to share with you a few ways I deal with regrets and I strongly believe they will inspire you.

Take responsibility for your part

Taking responsibility for your actions, your behaviour and your choices is an important key to setting yourself free from regrets. We have all done things in the past we may not be proud of. Of course, some people might have wronged us too, but it is essential to take responsibility for our part in the situation. This will not only set us free from our regrets, but it will also allow us to step out of the victim zone. Always take responsibility for your life fully. It is one of the wisest choices you will ever make.

Learning from regrets

Past is not here anymore and there is nothing that can be changed about it, only your approach towards the past can be changed. Try to accept it and take on board the lessons you had a chance to learn. These lessons definitely taught you something important that will help you in the future and is essential to your personal and spiritual growth.

Are regrets affecting your daily life?

You may be daily replaying certain scenarios from your recent or even distant past. This is only keeping you stuck in the rut and preventing you from moving forward. My suggestion? Write your feelings down. Writing exercises are extremely powerful. They will allow you to take your worries and regrets out from your head and place them on a piece of paper. Even though it sounds simple, it is very effective. This way you will create space in your life and shift your focus by clearing your mind from anything unwanted.


Meditation is a wonderful tool when dealing with regrets. Sit in stillness and take a few deep breaths until you feel calm and relaxed. Think about the situation you are regretting. How do you feel? What do you see? What do you hear? Are you feeling any tension/discomfort at any area of your body? Is it in your chest, your stomach or your throat? Now, take a deep breath and send it to the space of the tension. Visualise your breath dissolving this tension. When you breathe out, visualise this discomfort leaving your body in a form of a dark cloud. Trust and know that you are letting it go completely. Repeat this meditation as many times as necessary. I find that some regrets are easier to dissolve than others. By choosing to let go of them regularly will create a new practice that will help you dissolve your regrets one at the time. Give it a go.

A thought to keep

Regrets only keep us stuck in the past. They are no longer relevant to our life and by thinking about them we are unnecessarily paying for the same mistakes again and again. Transforming our regrets into our wisdom can be a hard work at times, but once we begin it will empower us.

“Always look forward with hope, not backwards with regret.”