Five ways to let go of negative thoughts

We all fall into a trap of negative thinking once in a while. Negative thinking makes us feel sad and worried. It often leads to overthinking and creating some crazy scenarios in our minds. Some time ago, I wrote a blog about the power of our minds. I talked about how our thoughts and emotions influence our reality. Most of the thoughts we are thinking today are repetitious. The thoughts we were thinking yesterday, we often carry with us to today. So, there is not a surprise, you may call yourself (or others will do) a negative thinker, if you are constantly dwelling on the same negative frequency. The good news is, there are many fantastic techniques we can use to let go of negative thoughts and adopt a new, healthy thinking patterns. I would like to share with you a five helpful ways, which can help you to let go of negative thoughts. I hope they will inspire you.

1. Rising above negativity

You are the only one choosing your thoughts, so begin to choose the good ones. It can sound easier said than done, but stay with me. The change always begins with changing your mindset. I believe  that one positive thought can cancel even hundred of negative thoughts. Focusing your attention on what you want and how you want to feel, instead of placing it onto what you don’t want to experience, will make a magical shift in your thinking. Your thoughts, and also the words you speak out loud, are very powerful. They effect your subconscious. Every time a negative thought arises, replace it with the positive thought. This is a quick and effective way to begin training your mind to think in a more positive way.

2. Positive affirmations

I often talk about positive affirmations, because they work (when you use them). Using positive affirmations can re-train your mind. There are three important keys to using positive affirmations. Affirmations need to be positive, personal and in a present tenseI call them a 3 P’s. For example: “I am feeling happy and excited about my life.” It is positive, it is personal and it is in a present tense. Affirmations can help you shift your perception of life. When you catch yourself wandering to a negative thinking pattern, try to think the exact opposite, by creating a positive affirmation. For example: If you worry about a meeting at work, you can use this powerful affirmation: “I am only attracting positive people and positive situations into my life. Everything is working out for me.” Create your own affirmations and use them regularly, not only when you feel stressed, negative or upset. I also recommend using positive affirmation first thing in the morning upon waking up. So, before checking your emails and getting on with your daily tasks, take a few deep breaths and repeat some positive affirmations to start your day right. Positive affirmations may feel like a lie to you when you start using them, but after a while, you will be amazed how beneficial they actually are. Begin today.

3. Erasing negative thoughts

One of my favourite techniques is visualising writing my negative thoughts on an imaginary blackboard. Once they are written down, I imagine, I am erasing them. As they are being erased, I feel they are also being released from my life. The next powerful technique is seeing the negative thoughts on a big screen (e.g. a big TV or a cinema screen ). As you are looking at the words on this screen, visualise, they are shrinking, getting smaller and smaller, until they completely disappear. Try these techniques and see if they work for you.

4. Re-evalute your relationships

Do you spend most of your time around negative people? No wonder you are feeling negative or de-motivated. The people we spend the most time with is exactly what we become. People who are constantly complaining, blaming others, are not a very good company to be around. Re-evaluating your relationships doesn’t mean you are blaming them. It means you are noticing what is going on around you, and how this is effecting your life and the way you feel. It also doesn’t mean to cut these people off from your life. Maybe you can talk to them and try to help them, or if that doesn’t help, choose how much time you actually want to invest in these relationships. If the negative people are a members of your family, remember that you cannot change anybody, unless they want to change. What you can do, is be an example of your own beautiful (positive) self. After a while, they may start mirroring your own positive energy.

 5. Release and surrender

Here is a spiritual tip for you. Release and surrender the negative thoughts to the care of the Universe. We often try to control everything that happens to us. We want everything to go our way, but we forget, that everything that happens to us, is serving our highest good. There is always a lesson we are learning. When you are caught up in a spiral of negative thinking and nothing else works to lift yourself up, release and surrender your negative thoughts. Say to the Universe: “I don’t know what is going on, but I am done with feeling this way. I am willing to surrender all these thoughts to you, Universe. Please, help me to see the light in my life, and help me to shift my perception.” Then, release it. Trust and know, the higher power of the Universe is taking care of the rest. Remember to think positive and positive things will happen.

A thought to keep!

“One small positive thought in the morning can change your entire day.” 


Learning to say ‘NO’

I am an introvert. When I say this to people, I often surprise them. But it is true. I am an introvert who expresses herself as an extrovert. Over the years, I learnt how to be confident and speak up for myself, although it doesn’t come naturally to me. When I was growing up I had a very rich inner world. Most of the time I was living in my mind and I had a very vivid imagination. Luckily I brought this imagination to my adult life as well. I have always been very creative and inspired by everything and everyone. When I saw a beautiful tree for example, I could instantly write a poem, a song or an essay about its beauty. This has shaped my world. But when it came to talking to others, I was scared, shy and very uncomfortable. At school, when the teacher asked a question, I was afraid to raise my hand. I often knew the right answer, but just to prevent an embarrassing moment in case it wasn’t the right one I stayed quiet. I didn’t have many friends at the time. When somebody wanted to be friends with me, I was over the moon. When I finally made some friends, I wanted to be a good friend to them. Therefore I would do anything to keep them in my life. This included saying yes when I meant no. At the early age I learned a negative habit of putting other people’s needs before my own. I would go out of my way to make other people happy, but sadly on my account. Many knew my weakness and often took advantage of it. I brought this habit with me to my adult life, so people would continue to like me. It took me years to actually start getting comfortable saying no to others, when I actually wanted to say no. I never wanted to upset anyone, so it was extremely tough for me. It was making me feel uncomfortable every time, and it still does occasionally. But it did become easier now, because I am older, wiser and I clearly state what I want. Are you, like I used to be? Do you often say yes, when you mean no, just to be nice? Take a deep breath and carry on reading.

When to say ‘No’

Bellow are some important questions worth asking yourself before giving a positive or a negative response:

How do I feel about this?

What is my intuition telling me?

Does this interfere with my own schedule?

Do I have time to do this?

Am I only saying yes, so this person will continue to like me?

Do I really want to say yes?

Am I saying yes, so I don’t upset this person? 

Remember, when you say no to someone, you don’t have to justify your response. You don’t need to explain anything to anybody. Just be polite and assertive. Remember that ‘No’ is also a complete sentence. If you are saying ‘Yes’ to someone just to be nice, please don’t. The person will also feel energetically, that you are not so keen of saying yes. They will know you are doing it only because you think you have to. Stay true to yourself and to others. There may also be many situations in life, where you are not so sure right away whether you want to say yes or no. If such a scenario occurs, just tell the other person, that you will think about it, and will get back to them as soon as it’s convenient. We are currently living in a very fast moving world. We often expect an instant response to a text message, to an email or in person. Take your time and think about what you really want to do and what is important to you. This is your life and only you decide what you want to do with it. Nobody can pressure you to do something you don’t want to do, so please don’t feel you have to.

Saying no can be very hard sometimes. We don’t want to upset or disappoint people. I completely understand that. Stay true to yourself and only say yes, when you really mean it. And when you say no, be polite, but unapologetic about it.

A thought to keep

“When you say ‘Yes’ to others, make sure you are not saying ‘No’ to yourself.” ~Paulo Coelho


Are you feeling lost?

Are you feeling lost or uncertain in your life right now? Is your path quite foggy and messy? You know you came here to the Earth to do all these great things, but suddenly, you are facing one obstacle after another…You notice, things aren’t just working out as you expected them to. The people you trusted are suddenly turning their backs to you, and unexpected little challenges are constantly distracting you…Can you see yourself in this?

Take a deep breath. You are not alone. I am currently going through a really interesting period in my life too. But what keeps me optimistic and continuously rising above all of the challenges I face, is my focus and my passion for the work that is important to me, and my love of life. I fully trust and know, that all these challenges are shaping me for something fantastic yet to come. I know, that I could not have come this far to fail. I may feel lost and tired at times, but I fully trust, that I will be okay. So, if you are also feeling a bit lost right now, read on and some of these suggestions may inspire you.

Find some quiet moments to relax

When you are feeling lost or uncertain, it’s important to take care of yourself more than ever. Relaxing and quieting your mind is essential. So let go of your worries, and give yourself permission to have that “You time” you deserve. Find some quiet moments just for yourself and silence your busy mind. Make yourself a lovely cup of tea, sit down and just be. Your mind is working overtime right now and you need to silence it. I recently started practising this exercise: When I notice my mind is starting to make me a bit crazy and I am overthinking or overreacting, I pause for a moment, take a deep breath and I repeat these words several times: “All is Well”. This centres me back into the present moment, where all my power lies. Give it a go and see if it works of you.

Write your feelings down

I did this last Sunday. I wrote in my journal for about 30 minutes. I couldn’t believe the number of pages I filled up in my journal. But it certainly helped me clear my busy mind. By writing my feelings down, I cleansed my mind of obsessive thoughts, which were creating an uncomfortable feelings. I believe, when you take your thoughts out of your head and put them on a piece of paper, they won’t be haunting as such anymore. You will make more space in your mind for more positive and happy thoughts. Try it.

After the Winter, there will always come the Spring

Throughout the year the seasons change. Spring, Summer, Autumn, Winter…they all represent their own unique beauty. We also go through seasons in life. So let the seasons of the year be an example that your life also goes through seasons. If you are currently feeling lost, trust and know that after the Winter, the Spring will come again and the sun will shine. But also know, that the Winter is actually teaching you some important lessons that will definitely help you grow personally and spiritually.

Do at least one thing a day that makes you happy

It can be difficult to focus on the positive when you are feeling lost. But try to keep your vibes and energy levels high. For example: watch a funny film, when you feel down, read your favourite book, or go to a yoga class. I often find that doing yoga or going to my ballet class liberates me from any worries and centres me back in the moment.

Spend time with people who love you

That’s right. Spending time with your family and your friends will make you feel good. Share your thoughts and feelings with them. Don’t keep it inside. They may also be able to give you a good advice, to support you and encourage you.

What’s your focus?

What you focus on, always expands. Albert Einstein said: “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.” Shift your focus and be willing to think differently, to see things differently. Start looking at obstacles as opportunities and at endings as new beginnings. Trust and know that what you are going through is helping you to become a stronger, wiser and a more confident person.

A thought to keep

“When you can’t control what is happening, challenge yourself to control the way you respond to what’s happening. That’s where your power is.” 


The purpose of your soul

A few weeks ago I took a morning walk through the streets of New York. As I was about to cross the road, I looked down on the pavement, and there I saw a message: ‘Fulfil your purpose’. I immediately smiled and took it as a sign. The sign of the Universe I cannot deny. These kind of signs are everywhere and often appear in the most unexpected shapes and forms. The ‘Fulfil your purpose’ message on the pavement, was another sign for me to carry on with the work I came here to do, and I enjoy the most: To be of service to people and teach them how to align more and more with their truth.”  To be authentic and proud of who I am and by living this way, inspire others to do the same. I am a dedicated student of the truth, and I try to live as truthfully and authentically as possible.  Although it wasn’t always this way. Many lessons I have learnt about living in my truth came the hard way. Looking back, I wouldn’t exchange a single one of those lessons. I am grateful for them. The message I saw in New York on the pavement that morning was a confirmation, that I have chosen the right path and I should carry on.

Your unique journey 

So are you on the path of fulfilling your purpose? Do you have a clarity in your life and know what you came here to do? Or are you like most people, working at the job you don’t enjoy and is dragging you down? Staying in a relationship which is not good for you, but you hang around there because you fear being single?  You may be fully aware, that you came here to do somethings else, but there may be part of you, which is still holding you back and keeping you at your present situation. The human soul can only reach its true fulfilment and happiness, when it’s truly experiencing what it came here to do. If not, the dissatisfaction is expressed on our physical and psychological wellbeing. Our souls live in our bodies. How else could they express themselves, only through our physical self. When something is out of balance spiritually, it will be reflected in our outer, physical experiences. So, pay attention to the signs and to the voice of your soul. Don’t look at the random signs as coincidences, instead ask yourself: “What is this sign trying to tell me?” Then, listen to your soul for an answer. It can come to you straight away, sometimes later.

A few ways to deepen the connection with your Soul 

Meditation and Stillness 

Meditation is one of the best ways to start communicating with your soul. Get to know the spiritual side of your being by sitting in stillness on a daily basis, even if it’s only for five minutes. If you don’t know anything about meditation, I have dedicated an entire page to it on website. You will find out some tips about meditation for beginners, plus some guided meditations to start you off. Here is the link: http://www.mysticbutterfly.co.uk/meditation/

Natural world and its powers 

Nature is a wonderful healer and also a story teller. When you are in nature, you immediately align with your truth. Nature will allow you to engage all your senses to the present moment. You will be able to hear the voice of your soul and you may also be amazed, how many wonderful ideas will start flowing to you. I always get so inspired when walking in nature. Some of my best creations happen, when I let go and take a stroll through a forest or a park.

Inspiration and Creativity  

Another great way to start connecting with the voice of your soul is by getting creative. Get a pen and paper and list things that bring you joy. If you like writing, you may discover that one of the purposes of your soul can be becoming a writer or even an author. If you enjoy spending time with children, your life’s purpose may be working with children (teaching, organising summer camps or any other forms of tuition). So which creative activity brings you joy? Do more of that today. T. D. Jakes said it beautifully in his quote: “If you can’t figure out your purpose, figure out your passion. For your passion will lead you right into your purpose.” 

A thought to keep 

When you learn to communicate more with your Soul, you will realise, that you don’t need to search for your purpose. Your purpose will find you naturally. You will begin to be drawn to the things that inspire you. Just enjoy what you do and find some quiet times in your every-day busy routine and the rest will take care of itself. Trust the wisdom of your Soul, it will never fail you.

P.S. The picture on the right is the actual sign I saw in New York streets just a few weeks ago. Don’t ignore the signs, they come to you for a reason. 


Comparison, envy and jealousy

Most of us compare ourselves to other people. We think some people are luckier, prettier or cleverer than us. We often compare ourselves to others by making idols of them. But what if that idol fails? Do you still want to be like them? We are envious or jealous of others. We sometimes criticise and judge people, we don’t even know. But is there really something to criticise, or are we only jealous of something they may have and we don’t? From a spiritual perspective, the people and situation are always sent on our path, so we begin to look inward, and perhaps learn something from them. Every time I find myself in these kind of situations, I ask myself: “What is it in me that is making me to judge, compare, criticise, being jealous or envious of others?” The other person is often a mirror of our inner state. The other person, can also be a mirror of our own inner beauty, which we may have forgotten about for a while. So what can we learn when we find ourselves in these situations?

Remind yourself, your journey is unique 

We often compare other people’s success to ours. Let’s make a decision to stop it. Everybody’s journey is different and special to them. You don’t know what they have been through, how they got to where they are now. You don’t know how difficult their road to success may have been. Focus on yourself and your own journey. If you want to be successful, look better or feel better, then ask yourself: “What step can I take to change my current situation?” If you want to lose weight, begin today by having a healthy meal or go for a walk. If you want to get a degree in something that interests you, do some research today. You can take a small step towards your goal every single day. Rather than comparing yourself to others, remind yourself every day, that this is your journey. Make it yours and unique.

Aspire to become the best version of yourself 

Don’t aspire to be like someone you admire, instead get inspired by them, but find your own voice, your own style. Align more with your truth. It’s great to get inspired, but it’s also equally important to be yourself. My suggestion is to aspire to become the best version yourself. There are many people I personally admire in my life. I get inspired by their messages, but I realised, I don’t want to be just another copy of them, instead I decided to strive to be more and more myself. Don’t let comparison to steal the joy of being yourself. The world needs your truth and your authenticity. Theodore Roosevelt said: “Comparison is the thief of joy.” Remember that.

A quick way to stop envy and jealousy 

Don’t be jealous of other people’s success, instead, be happy for them. From a spiritual perspective, I see it like this: When we are happy for other’s success, we are automatically vibrating on a similar frequency. This way, we begin attracting success towards ourselves. So get inspired and be happy for these people. I too, sometimes detour into the places of envy or jealousy, but I choose not to hang around there for too long now. It’s simply not worth it, and it’s exhausting. Release envy and jealousy. There are very toxic emotions, which are only holding you back from the true happiness and fulfilment. Focus on yourself and your own beautiful life. There is so much to learn, explore and to live for.

A thought to keep 

“The only person you should compare yourself with is the person You were yesterday.” 


Dedicate time to your personal development

I have a very exciting topic for you this week. Let’s talk about personal development. I am personally obsessed by learning new things. I cannot imagine a day without reading an inspiring literature or listening to a motivational podcast. Over the last few years, I learnt how to motivate myself. I am not saying, I am always positive and happy. But, when the negative moments strike, I try to embrace them, and don’t hang around in them for too long now. Dedicating time to your personal development daily, can improve the quality of your life. You become more positive, inspired, with the fresher outlook on life in general. Bellow are some suggestion, which can help you.

Creating morning and evening rituals 

To me, dedicating time to personal development means creating a good habits. I have a morning meditation practice. I sit in stillness for at least five minutes and quite my mind. Morning meditation always sets my day right. I also like to read something inspiring. Just couple of pages of a book will do the trick. This way, I get motivated and excited for the day ahead. I used to reach for my phone first thing in the morning to check my emails etc. This clouded my mind and took lots of my energy. So I replaced this habit by meditation and reading. It takes the same amount of time (like scrolling through the social media on my phone), but I actually get something positive out of it. I also try to end my day on a positive note. I write in my journal and list all the good things that happened in my day. I also meditate. Meditation helps me to sleep better. Some people like to read, so give it a go. Having a morning and evening rituals is a great habit to adopt. Do I always stick to them? Of course not. My work schedule is always different, sometimes I have to get up very early where I don’t stick to my routine. But most days, I do. Try creating your own rituals and notice how they make you feel. I believe they are very beneficial, and a great step towards your personal development.

Always learning, always growing 

Every day we learn something new, even without realising. Why not making it an intention? Get curious learning new things, even if it’s something you’ve never thought about before. Ask questions, observe people and learn on a daily basis. Make a decision that you will learn something new every single day. It will keep your mind on a positive frequency and you will be happier and more fulfilled.

Discard bad habits 

We all have some bad habits we would like to discard from our lives. What would you like to let go of? What is preventing you from being productive in life? Notice those habits. Don’t judge yourself. Then, make a commitment, you will start releasing these habits one at the time. An example: If one of your bad habits is switching on the news first thing in the morning (some people feel they how to watch it), and you are fully aware that the news drain you of energy, replace it by listing to an inspiring podcast in the morning. We all have bad habits, start discarding them, and notice how your life will begin to shift.

Get inspired 

We live at the fantastic time. There is so much free content and information out there. If you need an answer to a question, you just have to type it into Google search, and you will get it. You can even start studying a course from the comfort of your home and get your diploma, if you are busy working 9-5. I believe, if you want to make something happen, make your dreams come true, you will find the time to do it. If it’s not important to you, you will find an excuse. Is that simple. I often get inspired by watching an inspiring TED talk on YouTube or I listen to a CD with positive affirmation while I’m driving to work. Try it and see how you feel.

A thought to keep 

“Personal development is the conscious choice to improve one’s life to become a better person and grow as an individual.”


When we wander to the ‘Judgement town’

I believe our life’s experiences are always a reflection of our inner state. Whatever we believe, we like or dislike about ourselves will be reflected back to us, exactly like a reflection in a mirror. This also applies to judging others. One day, I was waiting in a queue at the coffee shop. There was a young woman in front of me wearing a very short skirt. Out of the blue, after examining her entire outfit, I noticed myself judging her in my mind. My negative monologue went like this: ‘I cannot believe how short is the skirt she is wearing? She probably wants some attention. I would never wear it myself! After a little while, I witnessed my self-talk. I immediately felt embarrassed. I was attacking an innocent person in my mind and I don’t even know her. Who am I to judge? (I asked myself). I was not proud of my thoughts, and this judgement was a huge wake-up call for me. We all occasionally detour into the dark places of judgement, and that’s okay. I have a few tips, which I believe can help you when you wander to the Judgement town

What is it in me, that is making me judge? 

When I noticed judging that beautiful, young woman in the queue, I began to ask myself more questions. What is it in me, that is making me judge this person? I reminded myself that the outside world is a reflection of my inner state. Maybe I was jealous of her slender figure? Maybe, I wouldn’t be brave enough to wear a skirt like that? I answered yes, to both of these questions. Afterwards, I sent this girl some loving thoughts and apologised to her silently in my mind. I’m sure her soul felt it.

Self-forgiveness  

Then, it was time for some self-forgiveness. I told myself, I forgive myself for the judgemental thoughts. Forgiveness is one of the greatest gifts you can give to yourself and to others. Part of us is a human being and we are allowed to make mistakes. We can always make a different choice and correct our mistakes in the next given moment. We learn from our mistakes and we grow from them, personally and spiritually. Here is a beautiful self-forgiveness affirmation I like to use: I forgive myself for my past mistakes. I learned from them.” Every time I believe I made an unwise choice, I say these powerful words. They allow the forgiveness to set in, and they start up the healing process.

Compassion 

The reason I mentioned this story to you, is because I want to be true to you. Being a teacher of spirituality doesn’t mean you are never going to wander to the Judgement town. Perhaps, if I had a good day that day, I would see the girl at the coffee shop as a reflection of my own beauty? But, I had to learn something important that day. I had to learn to see every person I encounter, as a reflection of my own inner state. I trust and know that the Universe always sends people and situation on my path, that will help me grow personally and spiritually. Therefore, be compassionate towards yourselves. Remember, you are doing the best you can, based on the knowledge and experiences you have at the time. Maya Angelou put it very beautifully. She said: “Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” 


The constant search for happiness

We all want to feel happy and fulfilled in all areas of our lives. We all search for happiness every single day. Sometimes the search looks like an endless challenge. Another time, we find happiness in a temporary situation. But are we genuinely happy? In this blog, you will find out, that happiness is not something you can find ‘out there’, but it is actually something you already possess within you. And you can access this inner state just by changing your perspective. The purpose of your life, is to be happy and to fully enjoy the experience of being a human. The purpose of your life, is to have fun on this adventure called life, not struggle through it. So let’s have a look at some ideas here.

Happiness blooms from within 

I believe our outside world is a reflection of our inner state. The way you think, and the way you feel has a lot to do with your happiness. Your thoughts are very powerful. We often don’t realise, we are creating our outer experiences by our thoughts. We have approximately 60,000 thoughts a day. According to research, 98% of the thoughts we think today, are the same thoughts we thought yesterday. We’ve got used to thinking certain way, and therefore our thoughts are repetitious, even without realising. So what kind of thoughts are you thinking? Don’t judge yourself, just notice. One of the keys to a happier life, is to feed your mind with positive thoughts. Remember, that you are the only thinker in your mind. Nobody is choosing your thoughts  for you, only you. Become mindful of your self-talk and be selective. Positive thoughts create positive feelings. From a quantum physics perspective, feelings have a lot to do with what we attract into our lives. The feeling you put underneath each thought has a frequency. This frequency attracts an experience into your life. And this leads me to the next segment, A few simple ways to change your thoughts instantly’….

A few simple ways to change your thoughts instantly 

When I find myself in a negative thinking pattern, I try to talk myself out of it. I must admit, It’s not always easy,  but it works. First, I acknowledge the negative self-talk I’m having, then, forgive myself. After I forgive myself, I start listing things I’m grateful for. For example: my wonderful family, my health, the roof over my head, the food on my table etc. This shifts my energy from the low vibrations to some higher frequencies. Then, I repeat some positive affirmations. Affirmations, are an amazing way to start feeling better fast. If you would like to learn more about positive affirmations, visit my blog http://www.mysticbutterfly.co.uk/power-positive-affirmations/ I believe it will serve you well.

What you focus on expands 

Lately, there has been so much going on in my life. Many exciting opportunities are coming my way, inspiration is flowing, and a new projects are lining up. But there are also difficulties. Many significant changes are happening, which sometimes scare me, but I know they are clearing my path, so the fresh, new things can come my way. This made me realise, what I focus on always expands. When I focus on the exciting things in my life, rather than the areas which aren’t currently working, I feel happier. When I look at the challenges then, they are not so overwhelming and frightening anymore. Try it yourself and see how you feel. Focus on the good and it will always expand.

A thought to keep 

“Happiness cannot be travelled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.” ~Denis Waitley 


The magic of believing in yourself

I am very excited about this week’s blog topic. All of us have dreams and desires we would like to accomplish in our lives. Unfortunately, many dreams are postponed or never turned into reality, because of fear and doubt. My intention for this blog is to give you the confidence to start believing in yourself. My intention is to help you start believing in your dreams. You can do anything you decide to do. When you learn to believe in yourself, anything is possible.

Believe you can and you will

Absolutely! You have to believe in yourself. Who is going to believe in you, if you don’t believe in yourself? The first step in achieving anything in your life is believing that it is possible for you. The idea, the dream, anything that you desire came to you for a reason, and it is up to you, whether you are going to act on it, or you are going to let it go. Sometimes it goes like this: You get an idea and you get excited about it. Then, the first obstacle arises. The voice of fear in your mind begins to speak: “It’s not going to be that easy.” Of course not, but in the moments like this one, take a step back. Nobody said, it’s going to be easy, but it’s definitely going to be worth it. Walt Disney said: “If you can dream it, you can do it.” And that is exactly how some great ideas came to reality. Be aware, that sometimes you take two steps forward, another time five steps back. And there is nothing wrong with that. If the lather occurs, don’t give up. Believing in yourself will definitely set you on the right path towards your dream.

You are unique 

You have a unique talents within you, which nobody else has. When you have a plan to launch a big idea, for example, the inner critic in your mind may start speaking loud once again: “Somebody has already done it or What’s the point of doing it?” Remember, most of the ideas are out there in the world already. That’s right, somebody else is already doing it or have done it. The secret is, how You present these ideas to the world make them original and unique!  And you have all the tools how to do that within you. Your soul is your greatest guide. Alongside your soul, there are also so many great resources such as books, the internet and the people in the field you are interested in. They can all give you some good advice and support, if you ask. Seek those who will be happy to assist you on your journey, and don’t believe those who will tell you it’s impossible. It may be impossible for them, but not for you.

Let go of the outcome  

That’s right! Expectations often lead to disappointments. As a spiritual student and a teacher, I learnt to trust and know that things will always unfold naturally. I learned to be patient and to know that the higher power of this Universe has even greater plan for me than I do. Let go of the outcomes and expectations. This doesn’t mean being careless. You still have to do the work to get things done, but be more relaxed about it, and be open to the unexpected. Sometimes the detours towards your dreams, bring the most beautiful experiences you will treasure forever. Enjoy the process of learning and growing. It will enrich you in many ways.

Inspire others 

Everything I do, I do for people like you! I love seeing others succeeding. It brings so much joy to my soul to see positive shifts in peoples lives. If I can inspire just one person each day, just by posting something inspirational on the social media or on my website, and help them realise how great they are, my job is done. Many of us don’t realise how much impact we actually make in this world. By believing in yourself and making your dreams come true, you are inspiring others to do the same. This way, you are happier and more positive. Being happy and positive gives you positive feelings. These positive feelings create positive vibrations that everyone can feel. People may look at you and say: “Wow, I want to be like that person or I just love being around that person!” By believing in yourself, you are being a great example to others, and sooner than later, they will start mirroring your positive behaviour and find greatness within themselves. Can you imagine, if the entire world lived in this state of consciousness? How much would our perspective change? So, from today, stop being envious or competitive. Instead, become inspiring and believe in yourself. By doing so, you will give others the permission to see their own light.

A little recap 

I am so happy and excited for you right now. You have a dream, so take a daily steps towards achieving it. You are more than capable of accomplishing anything that you desire. You have many resources within and around you to make your dreams come true. Your main guide is your soul. Now you know, that by following your dreams, you inspire others to do the same. This is a wonderful way how our entire creation heals and expands. Your dreams came to you for a reason. Now, it is your responsibility to protect them, follow them and bring them to reality. It doesn’t matter how long it will take you. I believe in you! Begin to believe in yourself too. This world needs your dreams, your creations, and your unique perspective.


Recognising your Self-Worth

A dear friend of mine is currently going through some ups and downs in her life. She asked me, if I could write an article about self-worth. I said, absolutely. This is a very important topic to discuss, and I have some tips, which I believe can help you when you are feeling a little down or unworthy right down. We often forget to look after ourselves properly. We’re unintentionally putting other people’s needs before our own. This can be very tiring. We may start feeling emotionally exhausted and this can lead to resentment and unhappiness. Remember, you are the most important person in your life. By important, I don’t mean being selfish. By important, I mean having a healthy respect towards yourself and recognising your self-worth.

Love and acceptance 

When you learn to love and accept yourself fully, others will love you and accept you too. Accept yourself for who you are and don’t try to be someone you are not. I talk from my own experience. I learnt this the hard way, but ever since I began loving and accepting myself for who I really am (even the flaws I used to dislike) I liberated myself! Here is a suggestion for you: Take a deep breath and recite this affirmation either silently in your mind or aloud: “I love and accept myself just the way I am.” Keep reminding yourself these powerful words every single day. A slight willingness to love and accept yourself just as you are, will open you the doors to a more fulfilling life. A few months ago I have written an article about self-love. If this is something you currently struggle with, you can read it here http://www.mysticbutterfly.co.uk/not-selfish-self-love/ You are unique soul and a human being and that’s what makes you beautiful. Remember that.

Surround yourself by the right people 

Surround yourself by the right people. The people who remind you of your self-worth. People who are there for you when you need them, not only when they need something from you. Surround yourself by people who encourage you and make you feel good, not drain you of energy. Sometimes we need to do an inventory in our own lives, and really decide which people are meant to be sharing this journey with us. Stop pleasing and impressing others. The right people who are meant to be in your life don’t need any kind of approval. They will come to your life naturally and will stay there. The right people won’t leave you when you need them most. Don’t judge those who do, instead remind yourself, that their path is different from yours. You both learnt what you needed to learn from each others. Then let them go and let them be who they want to be.

Self-care 

You are important and you are worthy, because you exist. You deserve the same amount of love, support and care from yourself as you give to others. We often forget to look after ourselves, because we are too busy living lives. Your mind, body and your soul deserve an equal nourishing. You need to treasure and look after your being as whole, and make your self-care a priority. Eat healthy food, exercise your body, take a hot bath, go for a walk or go to the theatre. Do what makes you happy and learn to start nourishing your entire being. Your wellbeing is important. Looking after yourself will make you feel more energised and you will become happier. You deserve it!

Your dreams  

Do you have a dreams you would love to accomplish in the next five years? Do you want have your own art studio? Buy a house? Write a book? Get your first degree at the age of 50? Why not! It’s all possible. Focus on what you want and take the steps towards your dreams every single day. It doesn’t matter how small your steps are. Do something every single day, that will bring you closer to your dream. This is your life and only you decide what you want to do with it. You are worthy of anything you choose. Take that first step today and focus more on what you desire in life.

A thought to keep 

Recognise your own worth and you won’t be drawn to those who won’t see it ~ Doe Zantamata