Have you ever noticed, that when you finally slow down and get still, many thoughts and emotions start suddenly rising up to the surface? I’m personally noticing it more now, during the global crisis. Having more time on my hands to sit with my feelings, is brining all sort of things up to the surface.
When you slow down and eventually pause, your mind can get very loud before it can get still. Unresolved issues, past resentments, work that you’ve been procrastinating on, it’s suddenly all there, present, screaming for your attention, waiting to be dealt with. This is the time when many people look for distractions, because they are afraid to sit with their feelings and do something about them. This process can sometimes even bring anger and blame with it, and can trigger all sort of emotions within you. But it is the first sign, it’s time to start doing something about this.
I’ve realised, that more and more I sit with my feelings, the more work I need to do on myself. I’m fully aware of all the unresolved issues that need to be addressed, healed, transformed and finally released.
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So, let’s go back to the article. Listed below are a few suggestions my clients and I are finding helpful.
Accepting your feelings
When we begin sitting with our feelings, at first, there may be chaos. So much may be going on. But, I find that honouring and accepting what is currently going on, without rejecting it, is a great way to begin. Whatever is happening in your mind, and whatever feelings you are having as a result of that, is currently part of you. As these feelings are part of you, you need to accept them, not fight them. If you fight, you are fighting part of yourself. Honour your unique journey and accept your feelings.
Being present with your feelings
After you you make peace with your feelings and accept them, be present with them. Sit with them for a while. Don’t judge, don’t react, do reject, don’t search for distractions. Just be with your feelings. Let the waters settle naturally. And if it helps at this stage, you can also get a pen and paper and write your feelings down. Just be present with your feelings without any judgment, but with compassion.
Working with your feelings
There is a big difference between working with your feelings and temporarily numbing them down by substances, junk food or other distractions. When you take care of your inner self, the outsides often take care of themselves too. Working with your feelings is not a job that will take an hour or one day. This is a life-long work. It’s learning you undertake to understand yourself. Working with your feelings is noticing how you react to certain situations, how you respond to people, noticing how you feel when they respond back to you. Working with your feelings is observing rather than reacting. I find, that the more you become an observer what is going on around you, within you, how you react, how you respond and what choices you make, the more you begin to understand yourself and your feelings. And in the future you won’t be so afraid to sit with them. You will gain a better understanding of yourself, what works for you and what doesn’t. It’s all about getting to know yourself on a deeper level.
I hope these suggestions have inspired you.