Tired of getting other people’s approval

We all want to be liked and accepted. We all want an occasional acknowledgement that what we are doing is right and we are doing it well. With social media being a big part of our lives these days, some of us measure our worth by the ‘Likes’ and comments we get on these platforms.
I must admit, I sometimes too, find myself checking the ‘Likes’ and comments, to see how are people responding to my sharings.
And here is something very interesting I’ve noticed recently: When I post something very positive, not many people actually respond to it and I can sense they don’t really like the positivity, as strange as this may sound (by like, I don’t only mean pressing the ‘Like’ button). I often sense the energy of resentment towards the positive posts. But that’s okay.
I’m not upset about this, because, I don’t want people ‘liking’ something just for the sake of liking it. And none of this really matters anyway. What I’m referring to is that I feel people would rather criticize others (whether that’s in their mind or publicly) than cheering them up when they are doing well. People are more comfortable in their unhappiness because it’s familiar. Seeing a positive post may actually trigger something within them they are not ready to face.

No, I’m not always positive and inspiring. Who is?

I’m not always positive, but as I’m becoming more and more honest with myself and letting go many old resentments and grudges, I am able to find beauty in others and the jealousy and inferiority are slowly fading away. I’m not going to lie, I used to be quite depressed, for many years I suffered from severe anxiety, I lived in so much fear and this was making me feel miserable, jealous and sometimes even unpleasant to others. And the truth is, I still get triggered by some people. Who doesn’t? But there is a big difference in my life now. I love seeing others succeeding. I love seeing others happy and positive. They are a reflection of my own successful, happy and positive self. When it comes to social media, I deliberately search for positive messages, because they make me feel good, and of course, when I get inspired by something, I want to share it with others too. It’s uplifting, inspiring and can help change someone’s day, even their life. That’s my reason for sharing positive messages around the Cyber-Space. 

Forget about the ‘Likes’ it’s about doing what you love

Your ‘Likes’ on social media do not define you. Focus on you, your life, your loved ones, your priorities. Be yourself, and if you want to post ten times a day on Facebook or Instagram, do so. If someone doesn’t like it, they have a choice of unfriending you or unfollowing you, and this has nothing to do with you. Do what resonates with you and what brings the most joy to your soul. You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone, you don’t have to justify anything to anyone. Just be yourself, make mistakes and enjoy the beauty of this life. This is your journey and only you decide what you want to do with it.

I will leave you with this inspiring quote today:

“Stop looking outside for scraps of pleasure and fulfilment, for validation, security, or love -you have a treasure within that is infinitely greater than anything the world can offer.” ~Eckhart Tolle 

Jana Prackova

Jana Prackova is the founder of Mystic Butterfly® ~ a guide to your true self, writer, traveller and a spiritual life coach. She loves inspiring people and her mission is teaching others how to reach their true potential by connecting with their spiritual side. In her spare time, she flies aeroplanes, writes music and loves exploring the mysteries of the Universe. Jana has been featured in the LOOP flying magazine and The Flight School Times and inspired many aspiring pilots worldwide to follow their dreams. She is the author of Mystic Butterfly ~a guide to your true self, which came out on the 18th January 2019.

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