Just over a week ago, I returned from a holiday in beautiful Croatia. Although the holiday was wonderful and I had a lovely time with my boyfriend and my family, quite a few things have gone wrong which made my energy scattered all over the place, left me feeling edgy and prevented me from fully relaxing and enjoying my time off. Just want to say at the beginning, that it is not a point of this post to moan- far from it.
Please, hear me out…
So, since we arrived in Croatia, I had many things on my mind, most I had no control over. I found it difficult to relax. To make matters worse, in the middle of our trip, my neighbour had sent me a text, that she is having a leak down her wall and it seems to be coming from my flat. This really upset me, because there was nothing I could do, being so far away. I could only call a few people to deal with it on my behalf. I later found out, it had nothing to do with me, as I always triple check everything is switched off before I leave home.
Another inconvenience came out of upgrading my mobile phone (online), just a few days before our trip. I didn’t give any of this a second thought and assumed that all will work out fine. It turned out later, that the whole process wasn’t as smooth as I thought it would be. I received my new phone a couple of days before the trip, but without my original number being transferred to it. My network provider said, the number will work within a couple of days, but sadly it didn’t. I was on the phone to my network provider daily, for the first few days of my holiday, without any success. All of it was big chaos, and of course, dealing with the leak situation and having two different phone numbers didn’t help either. Luckily for an iMessage being connected to my original number and my email address, I didn’t miss any important messages. But then, something happened which really struck me.
Just a few days before leaving Croatia, I learned that a girl, I’ve been following on social media for years had lost her life in a tragic accident. I didn’t know her personally, just through the internet, but felt really connected to her in many ways. She was a beacon of light in this world and a beautiful person inside-out. At that point, I’ve had enough. I broke down and gave up. Despite all the scenarios listed above, the magnitude of this situation put all of them aside. They were so insignificant, just general inconveniences. I felt sad, powerless, confused, upset, heartbroken and angry. All of these situations were so unimportant, in comparison to what happened to this beautiful young woman who was only 35.
The lesson from this is to stop taking the little inconveniences so seriously. I know they can be annoying, but after all, they are not a big deal and can be somehow resolved. Let’s be grateful for every single day in our lives and for all the amazing people in it. Let’s tell them daily how much we love them and appreciate them. Let’s be more loving and compassionate towards each other, even towards the people we don’t find so easy to connect with. After all, they are also human beings, sometimes confused and scared the same way as we are. Let’s stop making such a big deal of things that don’t really matter and take them more lightly. Let’s invest our precious energy to that which matters the most.