Inner Conversations

We often don’t realise how much our inner conversations affect our reality. The words we speak are very powerful, but so are the conversations we are having on a daily basis in the privacy of our minds. If you are like me, sometimes an over-thinker, you probably notice the internal dialogue that goes on in your mind. You may be thinking about having a conversation with someone and literally hear what they are saying back to you, before it actually happens. If the inner conversation is neutral or positive, that’s great, but if it’s not, it can make you feel uneasy or down even before having the real conversation.

I believe our inner conversations have a lot to do with what we experience, especially when we have a habit of thinking about negative things or what we worry about. But I’m not going to talk about that today. What I’m going to talk about is how our inner conversations work to our advantage.

Think about how you’d like things going for you

Focusing deliberately on how you’d like something specific going for you it’s a great way to begin. Let me share with you an example: You may be going for a job interview in a few days and you feel nervous. You have all sorts of thoughts and worries on your mind and this is understandable. Being nervous before an interview is perfectly natural and it’s a sign that you care about the job you are applying for and you’d like to get it. However, what you can do to help yourself in this situation is visualising and focusing on how you would like your interview to go. Start by having an inner conversation with your interviewers. Visualise what they are asking you and how you are responding to them. Feel the feelings of how you would like to feel at that interview. What would it feel like responding to their questions confidently and with ease? What would it feel like to be calm and standing in your power? Feel it now. Visualise how you are smiling at your interviewers and having a great conversation with them that flows easily and naturally.

When your mind detours into worrying or thinking that you are not good enough or they’re not going to like you etc., pause and take a few deep breaths. Interrupt these thoughts by choosing to think about how you would like your job interview to go. The more you do this, the more you will train your mind to do this naturally.

I hope the above example has inspired you. The same process can be applied to any situation. Have a positive inner conversation before a meeting, before a date or an exam. Focus on how you want everything going for you.

I fully understand it may be difficult to begin with, especially when you are new to this. Our minds have been trained to think a certain way and it takes time to break an old pattern and create a new one. However, by making an active choice focusing on what you truly want, it can slowly become a second nature to you 🙂

Jana Prackova is a spiritual life coach and meditation teacher. She is the author of Mystic Butterfly: a guide to your true self, Mystic Butterfly Notebook, a children’s book, Aerin and a Troll and a brand new book, Courageously Vulnerable. Her mission in life is to assist others in finding their true potential, by living authentically and doing what they love.  Jana is also a private pilot and has been featured in the LOOP flying magazine and The Flight School Times, and has inspired many would-be pilots, worldwide to follow their dreams. In her spare time, she writes music and loves exploring the mysteries of the Universe.

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