Recently, I’ve been dealing with a situation when someone had to sort something out on my behalf. I had no control over it and all I could do was wait. During that time, the communication from the other party was quite poor and I was getting very frustrated with the lack of update. At the end of each week that had passed I kept calling or sending them emails, trying to find out what is going on. I could not see what could be taking them so long. To me, the issue didn’t seem that hard to resolve. I felt they were putting it aside and not treating it as important.
We all have examples in our lives when somebody else has to deal with something on our behalf. They can be some professional people who are, e.g. issuing a contract for our new accommodation or someone responding to our request by email or returning a phone call with an important information. We trust these people and expect them to get back to us ASAP, and if they don’t have any answers yet, at least keep us updated on the progress of the situation. Updating someone makes us and our requests important and more at ease.
Unfortunately, it doesn’t always work that way. We all have certain expectations and if these expectations aren’t fulfilled, we feel disappointed. When you have to keep reminding someone over and over again the same thing, it can feel quite frustrating. If you are someone like me, I’m sure you can relate. When I wait for someone to get back to me, I always think how I would deal with the request. I know, I don’t like to keep people waiting. I respond to them as quickly as I possibly can, making them feel valuable and their requests important. If you are someone like me, and you are an empath, you can easily put yourself into other people’s shoes and understand how frustrating it can feel to wait for a response for ages or being completely ignored. But I also understand, not everyone is an empath or has a similar outlook on life. I know I can’t compare everyone to myself or to the people on my wave length. That’s something I’m learning to accept more and more.
But let’s go back to the situation I’ve described above. In the end, I’ve decided to let go. I’ve cut an invisible cord (in my mind) between myself and the institution, and made a peace with them getting back to me when they were ready. As soon as I’ve done so, things begin to speed up and the situation got sorted out very soon.
I’d like you to understand that if something like this occurs in your life, first of all, it isn’t your fault. It’s simply someone else’s failing. People know exactly what to do. Unfortunately, not everyone is doing their job properly or taking it seriously. There are all sorts of people in the world. Some people go to their jobs very de-motivated and only deal with what they really have to on the day. Most of the people are unwilling to put themselves into someone else’s shoes and understand how they may feel.
I’ve learned to accept that I have no control over other people’s actions at all. What I have control over, however, is how I view and respond to the situations I’m presented with. The important thing is I know who I am and how I would deal with similar situations and how would my actions make other people feel.