Last Thursday somebody upset me. A complete stranger, who didn’t even know me, made some comments about me that were very hurtful. First of all, his attitude really surprised me, even shocked me to be honest…I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. Secondly, it upset me and overwhelmed me, making me feel quite fragile for a couple of days. Some of my unhealed wounds (which I forgot were still there) have been touched and once again became very painful. I have to say I handled the situation very well on the day. I dealt with him as calmly as I possibly could, and stayed true to myself and to what I try to teach others. It is not my intention to go into the full details of this story, however, I want to tell you about what I learnt from it. I want to give you some tips that can inspire you, when dealing with unpleasant emotions of being upset.
1) Feel it
Feel your emotions. ‘When you feel it, you can heal it.’ We often hold lots of old, unresolved emotions within us. Feel those emotions fully and let them come up to the surface, so they can be healed and transformed. If you want to cry, do that. If you want to hit the pillows, why not? Feel them and let them out.
2) Will this matter a year from now?
Probably not! Last week, when I was upset, I reminded myself what is important. I said to myself: ‘I want to save my precious energy for people who love me and appreciate me, instead of dwelling on things which upset me. It is simply not worth worrying about it and waste my energy, which I could invest to something far more meaningful.
3) What do I have to learn from this?
There is always something to learn from these kind of situations. I’m a quite sensitive person and these kind of situations always toughen me up bit. Of course, there is no excuse for somebody having a poor behaviour towards anyone. The good news is, I’ve learnt something new once again, which can definitely help me on my personal and spiritual growth. I also believe, this situation happened, so I could tell you about it in this blog and give you those tips.
4) Talk to someone about it
Sharing how you feel with others is always very therapeutic. Express your feelings and talk to people you trust. You will feel lighter and so much better when you do that.
5) Fresh air always helps
Getting some fresh air will always do the trick. On the day when I was upset, I took a long walk. It was sunny, but a windy day. This was perfect. I allowed the element of air to carry away my worries and my upsets from my energy field. The wind took them far, far away to an unseen distance, so they could be transformed to the positive energy. I immediately started feeling more relaxed and more at ease.
6) Let it be
I used to over-analysed my bad experiences to the point of exhaustion. This old habit sometimes still creeps into my reality. The truth is, over-thinking about what happened won’t change anything. We may only make ourselves more upset, agitated, tired or angry. Let it be. Let it stay in the past, where it belongs. It’s just another experience.
7) Higher Power will take care of it
I also surrendered this situation to the care of the Universe. I gave it up and prayed for it to be dissolved, so it won’t affect me anymore. It took a little while, but having the willingness to surrender it, made me feel lighter, freer and myself again. I trust in the higher power of the Universe to take care of me no matter what. I pray, I meditate and I listen to my soul. These spiritual tools never failed me and I can rely on them 100%.
We always have a choice how we respond and how we deal with anything. On that day, I also had a choice. I chose to stay true to myself. We have to keep in mind that not everyone will always like us and understand us. That’s okay. You are not here to please everyone. You are here to be true to yourself, learn, grow personally and spiritually, and express your true self in the world.