Disappointments can be one of the greatest difficulties we sometimes face in life. Our minds often create expectations and if those expectations are not fulfilled, disappointment can happen. For many, disappointment can be a very challenging experience. This is completely understandable. The good news is, we can also view disappointment from a different perspective. For example: to learn many great lessons from it, which can help us on our personal and spiritual growth. I have a three useful suggestions, which can surely help you, if you choose to look at disappointment from a higher perspective.
Don’t take it personally
If something doesn’t work out the way you have planned or expected, try not to take it personally. I know it’s easier said than done, but it is possible. Some time ago I had to deal with quite a big disappointment. I met somebody and I thought this person really could be my dream soulmate. But one day just out of nowhere, this which I thought could be a future fairy tale ended without any warning. It hurt me greatly. I could not understand. I was asking myself the same question all over again: “What did I do wrong?” I could not find an answer. My soul has reminded me to stop blaming myself and to still my mind. One evening, after spending some time in meditation, I’ve heard my intuitive voice loudly and clearly: “You are a being of pure love and light currently expressing yourself as a human. You haven’t done anything wrong. Stop blaming yourself.” In that moment the veil has lifted. I could see the truth. I chose to see myself as a beautiful being of light and I chose to see this other person the same way. The disappointment was still present, but somehow more meaningless and not so powerful. I could see both of us in our real truth and that was extremely liberating. What I have learnt from this situation is to always remember my true identity and not to take other’s decisions and opinions too personally. If something doesn’t work out in your life the way you would like (a job, a relationship, an exciting opportunity), take a deep breath and come back to your truth. The situation you are experiencing right now, is purely somebody else’s opinion. It has nothing to do with you. Also trust and know, there is something so much better on the way to you soon.
Share your feelings
I’m naturally an introvert even though many people don’t perceive me that way. I mostly keep my thoughts and emotions to myself. I rarely want to bother somebody with anything I’m dealing with. I suffer in silence, because I rather share positive messages with the world than complaining about something. But lately I learnt something new. I started sharing my feelings with friends and family, and sometimes I briefly blog about them. This has transformed my life. When you share your worries or disappointments with others, it doesn’t always mean you are complaining. It can actually be quite therapeutic. It also helps to get another opinion (about your disappointment) from people who love you and care about you. Other people’s perspective can be very refreshing, and it can even have some fantastic solutions in store for you. If you have nobody to talk to, you can also write your feelings down in your journal or on a piece of paper. Let it all out and express your feeling rather than holding them back. This will definitely help you deal with your disappointments and any challenges you may be facing.
Focus on your goals
I believe there is a blessing in every disappointment. When we are disappointed we get a great opportunity to focus on ourselves and our goals. If the relationship with the person described above didn’t end, my life would definitely be heading a different way now. I’m not saying this is good or bad. It could be both. The Universe really works in a mysterious way. But ever since the fallout with this person, I worked so hard on myself and my creativity brought many fantastic opportunities into my life. I didn’t let the disappointment to control my life for too long, instead I redirected my focus on something very productive which is continuously bringing more and more blessings into my life. All I can say, I am grateful and I would not exchange a single day of this experience.