Most of us compare ourselves to other people. We think some people are luckier, prettier or cleverer than us. We often compare ourselves to others by making idols of them. But what if that idol fails? Do you still want to be like them? We are envious or jealous of others. We sometimes criticise and judge people, we don’t even know. But is there really something to criticise, or are we only jealous of something they may have and we don’t? From a spiritual perspective, the people and situation are always sent on our path, so we begin to look inward, and perhaps learn something from them. Every time I find myself in these kind of situations, I ask myself: “What is it in me that is making me to judge, compare, criticise, being jealous or envious of others?” The other person is often a mirror of our inner state. The other person, can also be a mirror of our own inner beauty, which we may have forgotten about for a while. So what can we learn when we find ourselves in these situations?
Remind yourself, your journey is unique
We often compare other people’s success to ours. Let’s make a decision to stop it. Everybody’s journey is different and special to them. You don’t know what they have been through, how they got to where they are now. You don’t know how difficult their road to success may have been. Focus on yourself and your own journey. If you want to be successful, look better or feel better, then ask yourself: “What step can I take to change my current situation?” If you want to lose weight, begin today by having a healthy meal or go for a walk. If you want to get a degree in something that interests you, do some research today. You can take a small step towards your goal every single day. Rather than comparing yourself to others, remind yourself every day, that this is your journey. Make it yours and unique.
Aspire to become the best version of yourself
Don’t aspire to be like someone you admire, instead get inspired by them, but find your own voice, your own style. Align more with your truth. It’s great to get inspired, but it’s also equally important to be yourself. My suggestion is to aspire to become the best version yourself. There are many people I personally admire in my life. I get inspired by their messages, but I realised, I don’t want to be just another copy of them, instead I decided to strive to be more and more myself. Don’t let comparison to steal the joy of being yourself. The world needs your truth and your authenticity. Theodore Roosevelt said: “Comparison is the thief of joy.” Remember that.
A quick way to stop envy and jealousy
Don’t be jealous of other people’s success, instead, be happy for them. From a spiritual perspective, I see it like this: When we are happy for other’s success, we are automatically vibrating on a similar frequency. This way, we begin attracting success towards ourselves. So get inspired and be happy for these people. I too, sometimes detour into the places of envy or jealousy, but I choose not to hang around there for too long now. It’s simply not worth it, and it’s exhausting. Release envy and jealousy. There are very toxic emotions, which are only holding you back from the true happiness and fulfilment. Focus on yourself and your own beautiful life. There is so much to learn, explore and to live for.
A thought to keep
“The only person you should compare yourself with is the person You were yesterday.”