This week’s blog has been inspired by something I’m currently dealing with. Somebody is negotiating something on my behalf, which I have no control over whatsoever. Even tough this is extremely important to me, I know, there is not much I can do. But when I look at it from a spiritual perspective, there are things I actually can do to keep calm, feel at ease, and ready to receive the best possible outcome for me and everyone involved. Most of us believe we have to control every detail of our life. When something doesn’t go the way we expect, we get frustrated, upset and may feel out of control. The truth is, we can’t really control anything. Listed bellow are a few tips, which I find very helpful when letting go of a controlling attitude.
Get still
Allow your mind to rest. Take a few deep breaths and tune inward to the wisdom that lies within you. That’s where your true power lies and that’s how you can shift your perception. This is especially helpful, when you are trying to control any kind of outcomes. Trust and know that all is good, you are safe and truly, there is nothing to worry about. The Universe is taking care of everything. Of course, sometimes, actions are required, but don’t let those actions turn into obsessions, control or chaotic energy. If you do, remind yourself to get still and breathe.
Let go of future tripping
When we are trying to control something, we often create crazy scenarios in our minds. This way, we unnecessarily detour into places we don’t want to go. My suggestion? Focus on the present moment as much as you can. When you are cooking dinner, fully engage your senses to cooking. When you are talking to a friend, don’t let you mind wander. When you are doing any kind activity, be all there. This is the best way to let go of future tripping and stay where your true power lies, in the present moment.
Feel good
Feeling good about the outcome, no matter what, will immediately put your mind at ease. Here is a tip, how to feel good fast: a quick exercise. Even 10 minutes of exercise in your living room, will get your endorphins up and high, and you will start feeling better. Another of my tips would be reading or listening to something inspiring. I often do this in the morning. It always sets my day right and on a positive frequency. Do whatever makes you feel good. When you feel good, you know that anything is possible.
Ask for a sign
I love this tip. Ask for a sign. My special sign is a butterfly. Every time I see a butterfly, it’s a reminder that I will be okay. I don’t deliberately search for butterflies, they just appear wherever I go, and I see them when I suppose to see them. Whether I see it in an advert on a TV, somebody having a butterfly print on their T-shirt, or they appear physically. Ask for a sign that has some meaning for you, or whatever comes to you first intuitively. This way, you will put your mind at ease, and will know that whatever the outcome will be, you will be okay, and it will work out for the highest good of everyone involved.
Pray and release
When you find yourself trying to control something, recognise your chaotic energy, and be willing to change your mind. Sit in stillness and pray. Prayer is a powerful practice. Doreen Virtue says: “Worry doesn’t help anything, but prayer helps everything.” You can simply say: “Dear Universe (God, Holy Spirit, Higher Power), I surrender this situation to you and I pray for the outcome of the highest good. Thank you.”
Have no expectations
It is a well known fact, that expectations can lead to disappointments. Expecting something is also a form of control. Be relaxed about the outcome and go with the flow. Trust and know that it will all work out exactly as it should.
And finally…
Use this powerful affirmation: “Today, I refuse to stress myself out about things I cannot control or change. I am choosing to focus my energy on the present moment, because that is where my true power lies, and it is the only place where the real life exists.”