Past is not here anymore, and there is nothing that can be changed about the past. Only our approach towards the past can be changed. We all make mistakes. We are allowed to make them. We are constantly learning and growing as human beings, so as souls. This is part of our journey. You might have done something in the past you are not proud of. You may still be resenting someone from your past who has wronged you. Things might have happened that you would like to change or re-arrange. If you find your past is haunting you, this week’s blog is just for you. I have a few tips which I find quite helpful whenever a past wound or a resentment comes up to the surface.

Acceptance 

Acceptance is the key of releasing the past. It may not be easy, but it’s definitely worth it. Try to accept what has happened. It’s served it’s purpose. Re-playing the same scenarios in your mind over and over again won’t change anything. It only steals the precious time of the current moment. A suggestion: Take a deep breath  and say to yourself, that you are willing to accept your past. A slight willingness will open the doors to the acceptance and forgiveness towards your past.

Focus on the present moment 

When you are thinking or focusing on your past mistakes, you are losing the power of the present moment. Present moment is a gift we should be grateful for every single moment. Instead, we often invest this precious time to the thoughts of the past. Make a decision today, that every time your mind wanders to the past, you will ask yourself: “Where am I?” And of course, you know the answer. You are right here, right now in this moment, so come back to it.

Surrender 

If you can master the art of surrendering, you can liberate yourself from your past wounds. When I want to let some heavy load off my shoulders, I surrender it to the care of the Universe (the Higher Power). I trust, the Universe will take care of it. How do I do this? In meditation. I close my eyes and take a few deep breaths to centre myself in the moment. Then, I say this prayer either silently or aloud: “I am willing to surrender this past mistake/past hurt to the care of the Universe. I trust and know that the Universe will transform it back to the positive energy. I know that all is well and my life is unfolding as it should. I am free and I am ready to focus my precious energy on the present moment and that’s the only place where the real life exists.” Then, I take another deep breath through my nose and breathe out through my mouth. When I’m ready, I open my eyes. I know the Universe is now working on my behalf and dissolving this past hurt/past mistake.

A thought to keep 

Remember that your past does not define you. You have learnt some powerful lessons from it that will assist you in your human and spiritual growth.

Happy New Year dear friends! I hope you had a wonderful holidays. It has been a tradition almost everywhere in the world to make a New Year’s resolutions. Have you made any? And are you fully committed to stick to them? Some of us are, some aren’t. This year I’ve only made one New Year’s resolution, and that is to align more to my soul’s truth. I am fully committed to create more connection with my soul by spending time in stillness, where I can access my own inner wisdom. If this is something that resonates with you, I have a few suggestions you may like to read.

Listen to your feelings

Become more true to the spiritual side of you by listening to your feelings. They are trying to teach you something. Listen to your feelings, instead of numbing them down or pushing them away. Listening to your feelings will help you to create a deep healing within your soul and a more alignment to your truth.

Say ‘YES’ when you mean it

I used to be a people pleaser. I was saying yes when I meant no, so people would like me. At the time I didn’t realise, this was very damaging to my soul. I had to discard this bad habit. When something doesn’t resonate with me now, I clearly state it. I learnt to be assertive. When something excites me and I know would make me happy, I say YES confidently! This way, I feel more relaxed and I am truthful to myself and to my soul.

Follow your calling

Following your calling instead of doing what you don’t like will also connect you more to your truth. Life is too short to waste on something which doesn’t bring you joy. I am not here to tell you what you should do. I am not going to tell you, you should meditate, to have a better diet or to exercise more, if this is not what you normally do. Instead, I suggest that you follow what lights you up. Listen to your own wisdom. Listen to your soul. It will always guide you to everything you need to know. It will direct you to discover your true life’s purpose. You can trust it. It will never fail you.

It’s your journey 

I used to think I wasn’t good enough. This old childhood belief occasionally lurks into my adult life, but I’m pleased to say I don’t believe it anymore. In the past I didn’t trust myself and my decisions. I was constantly seeking approval from others. Making the decision to be true to my soul is also letting go of this unhealthy habit for good. I want to be connected more to my real truth, not to the illusion I used to believe in. I’ve made a clear, firm decision to rely on my soul’s voice and stop seeking approval or confirmations about my life’s choices from others. If something resonates with me, I go for it! This is my journey, and I only decide what I want to do with it. And the same applies to you too: “This is your journey and only you decide what you want to do with it.” 

Stay true to yourself!

Love,

Jana ~Mystic Butterfly x

Last week we’ve talked about disappointment and how to deal with it. This week, I would like to stay on a similar note. A quite few people in my circle of friends are currently facing challenges with breakups and disappointments, so I thought it would be beneficial to stay on this topic for a bit longer. Breakups are never easy, but they are certainly something you can get over. I have a four useful tips which may inspire you.

1. Feel the feelings 

We’ve all heard people saying: “Get yourself together! You will be fine! Stop feeling sorry for yourself! He/She wasn’t the right person for you anyway!” Although these words can be empowering, they can also make us even more upset and sometimes angry. A spiritual way of looking at breakup would be allowing yourself to feel, the way you are feeling in the current moment. I believe: “When you feel it, you can heal it!” Don’t try to push the unpleasant emotions away, instead feel them fully. Feel them within the whole level of your being. If you want to cry, then do so. Emotional release can be very cleansing and healing.  If you want to scream, do that. When I’m upset about something I often go to the woods or somewhere I can be alone. There, I scream out loud my frustration. I always feel so much better afterwards. I allow the negative emotions to pass through me, and then I let them go. Some people take a longer time to heal from break up than others. Don’t compare yourself to anybody else. You are allowed to feel the way you are feeling right now. Don’t be hard on yourself, instead be compassionate towards yourself.

2. It’s a lesson

Ask yourself: “What can I learn from this situation?” Have you ever noticed repeating certain patterns in your relationships? Breakup can give you an opportunity to notice and explore the repetitive mistakes. For example: being too needy, too giving, too clingy, even forgetting about yourself and your hobbies when you are in a relationship… Try to identify an unhelpful patterns in your relationships and become more aware of them. Ask yourself: “How can I see this differently? How can I do things differently next time?” Listen to your intuitive voice for any direction. Notice any visions and feelings coming forward. Becoming aware of your old patterns in a relationships can be a very healing transformation.

3. A quick jump into a new relationship is not a solution 

Although some people may be ready to start a new relationship straight away, I believe it is not a solution. People have a tendency to always be with somebody, to have the other half they can rely on. As this seem very comforting and beautiful, starting a relationship because you have just broken up with someone and don’t want to be alone can be the wrong thing to do. Frankly, it is not fair towards your new partner either. Some people are just too scared to be on their own for a while. I believe otherwise. Give yourself a chance to heal any emotional wounds you might be currently experiencing. Find out what makes you happy, carry on with the project you’ve left behind, take the dance lessons you’ve always wanted to take or travel the world. Focus on yourself and the things that bring you joy. And this leads me to the last suggestion.

4. Get to know yourself better 

Breakup gives you an opportunity to get to know yourself better. Maybe you have been neglecting yourself because your focus was always on your relationship. Many people make this mistake. I admit, I used to fall into this category. We should all remember to take care of ourselves first. When we are happy and fulfilled inward, then we can share our happiness with others too. When you break up with someone, see it as an opportunity to get to know yourself better and start learning how to put yourself first. It is not selfish, it’s self-love! I have written a blog about self love which you may find helpful. You can read it here: https://www.mysticbutterfly.co.uk/not-selfish-self-love/

A thought to keep!

“Worry less, smile more! Don’t regret, just learn and grow!” 

Disappointments can be one of the greatest difficulties we sometimes face in life. Our minds often create expectations and if those expectations are not fulfilled, disappointment can happen. For many, disappointment can be a very challenging experience. This is completely understandable. The good news is, we can also view disappointment from a different perspective. For example: to learn many great lessons from it, which can help us on our personal and spiritual growth. I have a three useful suggestions, which can surely help you, if you choose to look at disappointment from a higher perspective.

Don’t take it personally 

If something doesn’t work out the way you have planned or expected, try not to take it personally. I know it’s easier said than done, but it is possible. Some time ago I had to deal with quite a big disappointment. I met somebody and I thought this person really could be my dream soulmate. But one day just out of nowhere, this which I thought could be a future fairy tale ended without any warning. It hurt me greatly. I could not understand. I was asking myself the same question all over again: “What did I do wrong?” I could not find an answer. My soul has reminded me to stop blaming myself and to still my mind. One evening, after spending some time in meditation, I’ve heard my intuitive voice loudly and clearly: “You are a being of pure love and light currently expressing yourself as a human. You haven’t done anything wrong. Stop blaming yourself.” In that moment the veil has lifted. I could see the truth. I chose to see myself as a beautiful being of light and I chose to see this other person the same way. The disappointment was still present, but somehow more meaningless and not so powerful. I could see both of us in our real truth and that was extremely liberating. What I have learnt from this situation is to always remember my true identity and not to take other’s decisions and opinions too personally. If something doesn’t work out in your life the way you would like (a job, a relationship, an exciting opportunity), take a deep breath and come back to your truth. The situation you are experiencing right now, is purely somebody else’s opinion. It has nothing to do with you. Also trust and know, there is something so much better on the way to you soon.

Share your feelings 

I’m naturally an introvert even though many people don’t perceive me that way. I mostly keep my thoughts and emotions to myself. I rarely want to bother somebody with anything I’m dealing with. I suffer in silence, because I rather share positive messages with the world than complaining about something. But lately I learnt something new. I started sharing my feelings with friends and family, and sometimes I briefly blog about them. This has transformed my life. When you share your worries or disappointments with others, it doesn’t always mean you are complaining. It can actually be quite therapeutic. It also helps to get another opinion (about your disappointment) from people who love you and care about you. Other people’s perspective can be very refreshing, and it can even have some fantastic solutions in store for you. If you have nobody to talk to, you can also write your feelings down in your journal or on a piece of paper. Let it all out and express your feeling rather than holding them back. This will definitely help you deal with your disappointments and any challenges you may be facing.

Focus on your goals 

I believe there is a blessing in every disappointment. When we are disappointed we get a great opportunity to focus on ourselves and our goals. If the relationship with the person described above didn’t end, my life would definitely be heading  a different way now. I’m not saying this is good or bad. It could be both. The Universe really works in a mysterious way. But ever since the fallout with this person, I worked so hard on myself and my creativity brought many fantastic opportunities into my life. I didn’t let the disappointment to control my life for too long, instead I redirected my focus on something very productive which is continuously bringing more and more blessings into my life. All I can say, I am grateful and I would not exchange a single day of this experience.