A couple of weeks ago I sat at the coffee shop at Heathrow Airport. I’ve noticed a two little boys patiently watching the landing aeroplanes. They seemed very excited every single time an aircraft touched down. They were so focused and present in the current moment and this inspired me. This week’s blog is not only for those who have children, but it is for everybody. There is so much, we can all learn from children. Although I am not a parent myself, I have a beautiful little niece and a nephew, who are my wonderful teachers. So what can we learn form children? I have a few suggestions that may inspire you.
They are living in the present moment
I often talk about how important it is being aligned in the present moment. Children are great teachers of this. When they are doing something, they are fully focused on it. They give their full attention to that activity and won’t let anything or anyone distract them. When I used to suffer from anxiety and panic attacks, one of the best cures for me was focusing on one thing at the time. This prevented my mind from wandering to some unwanted places, and helped me to be fully engaged in the present moment. Remember, present moment is the only place were the real life exists.
They are always curious
Children always ask questions. They are constantly curious about life. Curiosity is a wonderful way of being more child-like again. Let’s make a decision to learn something new every day. If somebody mentions something you don’t know anything about, become curious about it. For example: Become more curious by picking up a book you would not normally read, or join a class you would not normally join. Do it just for fun. You never know what you may learn, or who you are going to meet.
They do not worry
Children do not worry as such. They don’t have the same responsibilities we do (of course), but they look at life differently. The same applies to teenagers and young adults. When I was learning to fly I was in my twenties. We also had much younger students at the flying school. I often noticed how fearless most of them were. It was so much easier for a sixteen or a seventeen year old, to take an aeroplane flying solo without hesitation, than for someone older (myself included). I often wished I had their confidence. They were not children anymore, but neither adults. Having less life’s experiences prevented them from overthinking and worrying. What I’m trying to say by this? Let’s be braver and don’t let important and exciting opportunities pass us by.
They live in a fantasy world
Albert Einstein said: “If you want your children to be intelligent, read them fairy tales. If you want them to be more intelligent, read them more fairy tales.” I could not agree more with this quotation. Children love stories. They love playing, making imaginary characters and believing they are real. I remember when I was a child, I lived in a fantasy world myself, where anything was possible. This has shaped my world. When we grow up, we often lose this side of us. Let’s awaken this precious part of our being and start believing in magic once again.
They tell the truth
Children normally tell the truth. If they don’t want to do something or like somebody, they clearly state it. They say exactly how they feel. Many of us live our lives based on lies and pretending. We became so good at faking smiles, or saying yes when we mean no. We are not truthful to ourselves and others. We are often embarrassed or scared to express who we really feel. We hide behind false personas, creating lives that look good on the outside, but are so painful on the inside. I personally became very fed up of this recently. I am currently making some major changes in my life, cleaning up my side of the street, but also letting go of anything that is no longer serving me and re-evalutating my relationships. So, let’s make a decision today to become more truthful to ourselves and others.
A thought to keep!
“If we could all see the world through the eyes of a child, we would see the magic in everything.”
~Chee Vai Tang
Dear friend,
Most of us compare ourselves to other people. We think some people are luckier, prettier or cleverer than us. We often compare ourselves to others by making idols of them. But what if that idol fails? Do you still want to be like them? We are envious or jealous of others. We sometimes criticise and judge people, we don’t even know. But is there really something to criticise, or are we only jealous of something they may have and we don’t? From a spiritual perspective, the people and situation are always sent on our path, so we begin to look inward, and perhaps learn something from them. Every time I find myself in these kind of situations, I ask myself: “What is it in me that is making me to judge, compare, criticise, being jealous or envious of others?” The other person is often a mirror of our inner state. The other person, can also be a mirror of our own inner beauty, which we may have forgotten about for a while. So what can we learn when we find ourselves in these situations?
I have a very exciting topic for you this week. Let’s talk about personal development. I am personally obsessed by learning new things. I cannot imagine a day without reading an inspiring literature or listening to a motivational podcast. Over the last few years, I learnt how to motivate myself. I am not saying, I am always positive and happy. But, when the negative moments strike, I try to embrace them, and don’t hang around in them for too long now. Dedicating time to your personal development daily, can improve the quality of your life. You become more positive, inspired, with the fresher outlook on life in general. Bellow are some suggestion, which can help you.
We all want to feel happy and fulfilled in all areas of our lives. We all search for happiness every single day. Sometimes the search looks like an endless challenge. Another time, we find happiness in a temporary situation. But are we genuinely happy? In this blog, you will find out, that happiness is not something you can find ‘out there’, but it is actually something you already possess within you. And you can access this inner state just by changing your perspective. The purpose of your life, is to be happy and to fully enjoy the experience of being a human. The purpose of your life, is to have fun on this adventure called life, not struggle through it. So let’s have a look at some ideas here.
I am very excited about this week’s blog topic. All of us have dreams and desires we would like to accomplish in our lives. Unfortunately, many dreams are postponed or never turned into reality, because of fear and doubt. My intention for this blog is to give you the confidence to start believing in yourself. My intention is to help you start believing in your dreams. You can do anything you decide to do. When you learn to believe in yourself, anything is possible.
A dear friend of mine is currently going through some ups and downs in her life. She asked me, if I could write an article about self-worth. I said, absolutely. This is a very important topic to discuss, and I have some tips, which I believe can help you when you are feeling a little down or unworthy right down. We often forget to look after ourselves properly. We’re unintentionally putting other people’s needs before our own. This can be very tiring. We may start feeling emotionally exhausted and this can lead to resentment and unhappiness. Remember, you are the most important person in your life. By important, I don’t mean being selfish. By important, I mean having a healthy respect towards yourself and recognising your self-worth.